6 Tell Tale Signs That He is Not Interested in Anything Long Term

After the first few days/weeks/months of a new relationship, you may be wondering is this guy serious about me? Sometimes, if you’ve been spending a lot of time together it feels like you’re on the same page but that may not always be the case. So how do you know if the guy you’re developing feelings for is as excited about a future with you as you are with him?

Here are 6 tell-tale signs that he’s NOT interested in anything long-term.

# You still haven’t met his friends

A guy that is serious about a relationship with you shouldn’t make you feel like his secret. Sometimes it can take a while before he brings you into his social circle, but if he goes out of his way NOT to bring you around his friends, then it’s time to ask why. A man who can really envision a future with you will want to integrate you into all parts of his life.

# He calls you crazy or too emotional

Whether it’s something he did, you did, or it was just a bad day, if you express emotions and instead of consoling or listening to you, he criticizes you, then he’s not in it for the long haul. Some guys can take your emotional expressions too personally. If he makes you feel worse and not better, then he is not mature enough.
# He makes his mother (or another woman) the number one female

We love a guy who loves his mother, but if he’s making her (or his sister, female friend… etc.) more important than you, stop the presses. “Make sure you are number one in his life and the relationship. He must be able to prioritize you as the most important feminine presence in his life.

# He looks single on social media. It may not seem like a big deal, but it is

Many men (and women) won’t post pictures of the person they’re dating for the specific reason that they don’t want to look like they’re in a relationship. If after several months and hundreds of selfies together he still only has pictures of him and his buddies on Facebook and Instagram, proceed with caution. A guy that is serious about you will make sure the real, and virtual, world know it.

# He never brings up the future

Does he talk and commit to future plans, whether they’re tomorrow or five months from now? A guy that is serious about you won’t be playing you or wasting either of your time because he knows what he wants. If you’re hearing ‘too busy’ too often, that’s a sign he isn’t serious. In fact, if he is hesitant about committing to something further down the road, he is probably hesitant about committing to the entire relationship.

# He breaks promises and commitments

These can be as big as not going to your friend’s wedding with you after he promised he would, or small commitments like, not calling when he said he would. Don’t pay attention to what he says, pay attention to what he does. His words and actions must be congruent. If your guy can’t even show up when he says he will, you can bet he’s not ready to commit to decades of life and love with you.