Whether it is binging romantic comedies or listening to metal/rock on full volume, breakup sadness consumes all of us in different ways. Some drown their sorrow in One Direction while others need to have an album of Linkin Park ready. While coping mechanisms for grief vary, some checkpoints must be kept in mind in order to avoid any embarrassment.
A breakup can make you do the weirdest things and sometimes, these also turn out to be the greatest way of getting over the breakup too. Although, we often end up doing the dumbest things that we can easily avoid. Read on to find out these funny things people do after a breakup that one must avoid:
# Keep calling the ex
There’s usually a tendency for recent ex-lovers to keep calling up late in the night to blast or bawl. Whatever your urge be, stay away from the phone. Your ex would only find you annoying or even amusing. You don’t want to be that. Do you?
Think of it this way – you broke up with a person you’re not interested in anymore, and they keep calling you. How would you feel? You would surely not feel attracted to them, would you? Although expressing your emotions is always appreciated, overdoing it can be suffocating to the other person. Allow yourself to heal and move on privately while giving your ex some space too.
# Have random ‘sleepovers’
Adult sleepovers, of course. Having lots of sex will not make you get over a breakup. Actually, this could leave you more broken and emotionally drained. Stay away from it. You might feel good momentarily but the feeling of missing someone would increase exponentially once you’re back home.
Going on a high that would ultimately make you crash hard isn’t worth it at all. Although hanging out with your friends in a platonic and friendly way is healthy and helpful, indulging in meaningless sexual relationships would only cause further damage.
# Getting a dumb make-overThanks to many movies dealing with breakups, you believe getting a high bang or purple streaks would make you feel better. This is among the funny things people do after a breakup that are totally avoidable. In my opinion, since you are not the most logical person at this point, you might end up doing something totally outlandish. Even if you want to do something to feel fresh and a little different than the usual, go for something that’s temporary.
This way, even if you end up hating it, no harm no foul. Make sure you do not have a make-over vindictively by getting something done that you know your ex would hate. If it’s something that you love and have wanted for a long time, by all means, go ahead, but if you’ve done it out of spite, you’ll end up regretting it soon.
# Posting faux date’s photos on media for your ex to seeYou know your new beau is only temporary. Your ex might not even be jealous or interested. And your ex is intelligent enough to know what’s on your mind, so don’t even get there. This would make you look desperate and that’s not a very good look. Is it?
Allow yourself to be more dignified than trying to attract your ex’s attention by posing with Mr. Temp. It is not just heartless but also, a little overplayed. Rebound relationships prove to be disastrous because you now have your broken heart and your rebound to recover from. Do not trap yourself in that mess.
# Becoming a workaholicIf you’ve always been a punctual individual who shows up on a date just in time, even if it means skipping out of work early, your coworkers would definitely have noticed it. So when you go through a rough breakup, staying in the office for long hours will make people talk. While it’s no big deal and people generally don’t mean much by it, try to not engage in such evident and obvious behavior shifts. It will only add to your annoyance when you catch people snickering behind your back.
# Get tattooedA tattoo is a permanent, mature decision that one should take in their right mind. We hope despite all the reasons to get a couple’s tattoo, you did not with your ex. A tattoo, which is going to remain on your body forever, is best put off until you feel emotionally stable and mentally calm. Getting inked when you know you’re depressed is only going to make you regret it later on.
You don’t have to get a tattoo to show that you’ve moved on or healed. It is a slow process that requires commitment and a lot of patience. Any sane person would understand the need for you to take your time and any unnecessary show of pace would lead you down a childish race. Before you plunge into the idea, let us tell you removing a tat is twice as painful.