It’s one thing to make it to your boyfriend’s living room. It’s another thing entirely to get up to his bedroom and spend the night there. Sleeping over at his place is a huge milestone in the relationship. He’s allowing you to enter his safe space and actually stay there for the night. It should be an awesome moment that you can relish, right? You should be happy that he’s letting you in, right?
Not always.
Sleeping over can actually cause a lot of anxiety for many women. After all, you’re sleeping over at someone’s place where the rules can be a little bit different. What should you do? What should you bring? Would he be okay with your morning breath? What happens if his roomies spot you casually walking towards the toilet?
# Tell a friendJust to be on the safe side, it’s a good idea to tell someone you trust exactly where you’re planning to sleep over. Have the exact address and send it via text to a friend. This is especially important if you’re going home with a guy you don’t know that well yet *e.g. a guy you decided to come home with while you were partying*. You never know if you might suddenly need a friend to pick you when things go awry.
# Bring cashThis is possibly the most important and convenient thing you need to have on you. Besides, who doesn’t carry a bit of cash with them when they go out? You need to have enough cash for a cab back home, in case your guy can’t drive you back to your place. Other things you might end up buying are toiletries, particularly if this is an unplanned sleepover.
# Bring toiletries, undies and maybe an extra shirtYou don’t need to bring an entire suitcase of stuff when you’re sleeping over! Seeing you lugging around a suitcase on your way to his place might make him think you instantly plan on moving in. Just bring the basics such as a toothbrush, makeup remover, underwear and a change of clothes, unless you’re fine with wearing your date attire from the night before when you’re headed home. You don’t want to look like a hot mess once you get back home, do you?
# Drop by the convenience storeThis would only apply
if you’re having an impromptu sleepover. 24 hour convenience stores are
everywhere these days, so finding one should be a cinch. Once you’re
there, grab the essentials like a toothbrush and maybe some condoms.
Sure, the guy you’re with might have the essentials at his place. But
it’s better to be ready than to find out what’s missing when you’re both
at his place and too tired to go back out again.
# Wear light makeup or bring makeup remover
Raccoon eyes aren’t exactly the look you’re aiming for when you want to greet your guy a good morning. Of course, you want to look great, with the smokey eyes and twelve coats of mascara, but try your best to look like yourself when you’re wearing makeup, lest the guy you’re with would think that he took someone else home by mistake.
Also, makeup remover and some moisturizer are your best friends when you’re sleeping over. Get rid of the gunk on your face before you lay your head on one of his pillows. Trust us when we say that a guy would rather wake up to a fresh makeup-free face than a face that would give Freddy Kruger a run for his money.
# Don’t act disgusted
There’s that twinge of anxiety that sets in once you enter his space. You never really know what you’ll find in there. So if you see that the house could be a little neater or a little cleaner, just do your best to not say anything that sounds like criticism. If your first instinct is to grab the Lysol and spray away, resist! You’ve been invited in, after all, the least you can do is act a little more grateful.