6 Tips For Making Him Want You For More Than Something Casual

There comes to some extent in each dater’s existence in which they need extra than only a hookup. Those past due night time booty calls and Netflix and sit back dates can get vintage or even make you experience like you’re now no longer really well worth something extra. Whether you simply met a person new and need to keep away from being positioned into the “hookup only” category, or you’ve been hooking up with a person and need to take the connection further, there are matters you may do to show the tables and be visible as a person a man desires to be round long-term.

# Be clear about what you’re looking for from the start

In the beginning of a new relationship, people typically hold back from saying what they truly want out of a fear of being rejected.

“In a lot of cases, this ultimately leads to rejection because the expectations for the relationship are misaligned,” explains Tiffany Toombs, relationship expert and coach. “If the other person isn’t ready for a relationship, or they don’t want anything other than a hook-up, it’s not your job to change their mind.”

And the more time and energy you spend with this person, the less time and energy you’re spending on finding the right person for you. If you find yourself constantly starting relationships as casual and trying to transition them to something more serious, you’re going to have a tough time at it.

# Find out what he wants in a natural way

A bit of playing hard to get is fine, but don’t play any other games with a person that you want in your life, explains dating expert, Chris Pleines.

“While the ‘we’re in a relationship’ label isn’t really that necessary during the early stages, you do want to know if you’re exclusive at some point,” he explains. “The most effective approach here is to be natural: You’re going out on dates with him, meeting at either of your places, spending time together. If you truly enjoy being with each other and you’ve developed feelings for the man, it’s fine to just tell him how you feel.”

# Don’t pretend to be casual just because he is

“When a guy says he’s just looking to have fun, you aren’t just supposed to go along with it in hopes you can change his mind as he gets to know you,” says Apollonia Ponti, a licensed international dating and relationship expert and coach. “Understand that he is just looking to have fun and you have to decide how much attention you should give him.”

# Don’t sleep with him on the first date

It can be really arousing when you’re super flirty and the chemistry is bubbling over on the first date, but if you’re looking for something more than a hookup you may want to resist the temptation.

“If you’re going home with him the first night, the chances are high that this will remain as a one-time encounter,”says Pleines. “If you’re sure you want to see him again, let the sex wait for another two to three dates. Guys are hard to understand when it comes to early sex. Of course, they love it but some lose interest when they get it on the very first night.”

# Don’t answer booty calls early in the relationship

You can let him know how you want things to be without explicitly saying it by setting up a few boundaries. “If you want something more serious, make him see early on in the relationship what you would and would not do,” says Pleines. “If he’s asking for a booty call on a regular basis, he’s definitely going for something casual rather than a serious relationship.”

# Don’t contradict your hookup status

You know when you’re on a date and things get hot and heavy and you tell the man that you “want to take it slow” or that you “don’t hook up on the first date,” then the next morning you wake up looking for your clothes? Make sure when you meet a man you hold yourself accountable and stick to your word. Pacing yourself as you to get to know him.