6 Tips Not To Be Boring in a Relationship

It doesn’t matter if you’ve been with your partner four weeks, four years, or even more, at some point, a little boredom is inevitable. It’s natural when you think about it – generally, when you do the same thing time and time again you get bored. The same goes for when you spend time with the same person, doing the exact same things. Whether it’s sex that’s become a little yawnsome or simply that you don’t have much to talk about when you’re alone, you can fix it. You simply need to learn how not to be boring in a relationship and inject a new spark.

The fact that you’re yawning a little more than you used to doesn’t necessarily mean you aren’t a good match or that you have no passion. It just means it is time for a change.

That change can be small or major but as long as you realize your relationship is getting stale and something needs to happen you’re off to a good start.

# Acknowledge it but don’t freak out

Before you try to fix anything, realize that boredom happens in every relationship, even healthy ones. It is a natural part of any relationship. Once you get to know each other and are comfortable, it is easy to let that be the steering focus.

Know there is nothing wrong with you or your partner. This is just a passing phase.

# Bring it up in conversation

Talk to your partner about how you’re feeling. Let them know you love them and are happy but something is missing in your relationship. Ask if they feel the same way. And brainstorm together on what you can do to liven things up.

This needs to be something you both want. If you want to get out and do things together as a couple, and they’re fine sitting around and watching Netflix, then your issue is bigger than boredom.

# Brainstorm a few action points

Think of what you can do together to be more exciting. This should be a team effort. Even take turns. Maybe you want to go dancing and your partner wants to go hiking. Even plan spontaneous dates or surprise dates so the other person doesn’t know the plan.

# Start with baby steps

You don’t have to plan a random trip to Spain to break out of your boring rut. Even small things can be enough to reignite that spark.

If you are planners or enjoy a routine, just switch up where you go to dinner at first. Maybe go on a double date. Or try to pick out each other’s outfits for your next date night. Small things can be enough to push you in the right direction.

# Have you forgotten how to flirt?

Once you get into a committed relationship, flirting can cease. Those tingly butterflies can stop fluttering. A small compliment or even teasing can do a lot for the morale of your relationship.

Compliment your partner on their outfit, their taste in home decor, or their strength or determination, but with a sexy edge. Just changing up the fact that you’re used to each other and reigniting those nerves and blushing cheeks can amp up your relationship.
# Think about your partner more often

The excitement in a relationship isn’t all about dates and what you do together but also what you do for each other. In a former relationship, my ex and I would write each other notes whenever we went to the other’s place. They were silly but sweet.

Once that died down, everything else sort of crumbled with it. Do those small things again. Buying flowers, picking up their favorite candy bar, or just offering to do the dishes at the end of the night adds effort to the relationship.