Is it normal to get over a breakup fast, you may wonder. Getting over a breakup is quite a personal journey and doesn’t come with a definitive deadline. Everyone passes through the different stages of breakup to eventually move on and be at peace. But we say when it comes to your mental well-being, the sooner the healing process kicks in, the better.
So, why don’t you modify this narrative into something more self-affirmative; as Barney Stinson would say, “When I get sad, I stop being sad and be awesome instead.” Don’t worry, Bonobology just doesn’t offer fancy catchlines but effective tips to survive a heartbreak without breaking yourself. All we ask for is a little effort on your part and the willingness to feel good again. Can you do that for us?
# Accept the relationship is overBelieve it or not, the fastest way to get over a breakup and start healing from your loss is to accept the fact that the relationship is now gone for good. Embrace your feelings of grief and let them out. Allow yourself the time to get used to that empty feeling. Cry your heart out, scream into a pillow, go for a run, punch a sandbag, or write down your emotions in a journal – whatever works best for you to find a quick fix for your broken heart.
# Don’t shut your friends completely outOne of the things you shouldn’t do after a breakup is drive your friends and well-wishers away. Most people trim their social life when they get into a relationship because their partner becomes the center of their attention. Naturally, it hurts bad when that status quo breaks. However, you can still claim your social life by letting your friends in.
Getting through a breakup alone and getting through a breakup with a bunch of friends holding your hands are two different things. With them, you get a shoulder to cry on and they become a welcome major distraction from that gnawing pain inside you. They can also help you see life in an altogether new light and keep your mind and brain occupied to help you overcome the heartache.
# Find a way to redefine your past memories and souvenirsIf you are trying to figure out how to heal from a breakup, stop seeing your relationship memories as something that leads to repeated meltdowns. Instead, consciously work toward readjusting your perspective and view them as a reminder of good times that are now in the past. And if you feel you haven’t reached a point of emotional recovery that allows you to do that, simply distance yourself from anything that reminds you of your relationship.
If looking at those happy pictures gives you hope, stash them away or just burn them. If the gifts become a hindrance to your recovery process, give them away. However, if you are not one of those who look back at all the things associated with the past relationship as a reminder of your ex, letting go shouldn’t be that difficult.
# Snap all contactWhile it’s hard to tame the urge of stalking your ex over social media or trying to bump into them in a coincidental way, it’s best avoided. You will feel tempted to ask about their well-being and whereabouts from your mutual friends. That’s why it can help to cut off all ties that connect you with your former partner to give yourself time to heal and get over him/her. People say that absence helps you feel a person’s presence more intensely.
After a breakup, you should make that your strength instead of letting it be your weakness. Time, absence, and distance provide the much-needed emotional clarity that one needs after splitting up. Missing your ex and keeping a constant tab on them because your emotions are all over the place and running haywire can be detrimental to your moving-on journey.
# Put an end to the brooding phaseIs it normal to get over a breakup fast? Trust me, the faster, the better for you. But healing post a breakup isn’t a one- or two-day affair. You cannot help but be trapped in your mind. In times like this, it helps to remind yourself that the brooding has to stop at some point so that you get accustomed to the rhythm of everyday life again. The longer you play victim to the situation, the harder it becomes to get out of that loop. It’s you who knows best when to cut the final cord.
No more revisiting old text messages or photographs. No more sad thoughts and negativity around. Write on your wall, set reminders, or change your relationship status to ‘single’ on social media. Exploit your pain and get something amazing out of it like finding a new hobby or hitting the gym to get that beach body you always wanted. Do what it takes to feel better but don’t suppress your emotions though, because suppressed emotions could lead to depression.