6 Tips To Break Up With Someone You Live With

Going through break up in life is not easy at all. They become worse when you have already lived with that person.To be really honest, it was nightmarish. I left wishing I knew how to break up with someone you live with but without the drama.

I don’t think I would even wish having to breakup with someone who you’re living with on my worst enemies! You’re both angry and hurt, belongings to divvy up—and don’t even get me started on the pets!

Not every breakup ends with all of your belongings broken and scattered after being tossed out the second story balcony. Although, it makes for an interesting story. Breaking up with someone you live with can be easy and even peaceful with some work.

# DON’T pack up your belongings first

Packing up all of your stuff before talking to your significant other about breaking up is just wrong. What if they come home early one day and find all the boxes? What if they notice most of your bathroom essentials have been taken?

This only sets them off on a temper tantrum embarrassing for a three-year-old. Blindsiding someone with that kind of information and expecting them to be understanding about it just doesn’t work. They’ll be hurt about the breakup, sure, but they’ll be even more hurt you planned on moving everything out before telling them about it.

# Don’t start an argument before the big talk

For some reason, people think it makes a breakup easier to get into a big argument with their significant other right before breaking up with them. They think it’s a good way to transition into leaving them, but it’s really horrible.

First, your argument probably has nothing to do with why you’re leaving them, and second, making someone really mad right before leaving them with ALL of your belongings is just stupid. They could start throwing things and that will certainly not keep the peace.

# Have a real breakup talk in person

You can’t break up with someone you live with over a text. You might just come home to find your life belongings sprawled out in the lawn on fire. You have to do something like that in person. It’s polite and keeps them from going crazy with your stuff.

# Make a plan if you don’t already have one

Some people plan out where they’ll live or go after the breakup beforehand, but in case you haven’t yet, make a plan. Find out where you can stay until you find a place and make sure the plan is solid and you follow through with it.

# Be respectful of their stuff

The breakup may not always go as planned. Meaning, they might get mad anyway and have a fit and decide to trash a piece of your furniture. It can be tempting to retaliate and destroy something they really like, but don’t. Be respectful of their stuff and let them keep things you know they like more than you do.

# Be mindful of their space

Don’t follow them around the house right after the breakup and try talking about who’s getting what. They need space to think and figure out their next move. They’re probably taken off guard and don’t know what to think. So be respectful of their space.