6 Tips to Deal With Dating Someone Who was Unfaithful in Their Past

There was a time I never would have considered dating someone who cheated. I was disgusted by the very idea of it. But as time went on and I started seeing different people with different pasts, I realized you can’t put a label on someone without knowing the whole story.

Yes, cheating is a horrible betrayal, and it should make any person a tad bit wary of starting a relationship with someone who has done it in their past. However, it should never be the sole reason you dismiss them completely from your life.

# There could be more to the story

Although cheating isn’t acceptable under any circumstances, there are some cases that make a little more sense. Maybe their last partner was abusive and they didn’t feel they could leave them.

You never know the details of their last relationship, and it’s not fair to base your feelings for them off of something they did in the past. Maybe they only cheated once and then left. You never know!

# If they told you, they won’t do it

Generally speaking, if you found out about their unfaithful past from them, you really don’t have a whole lot to worry about. They’re being open and honest with you and not hiding anything.

They’re fully aware telling you this detail about themselves may cause you to look at them differently and even leave them, so they are really trying to air out the past in order to move forward. Let them.

Besides, who would tell you they’ve cheated if they plan to cheat? It’s like calling the cops before robbing a bank. It doesn’t make sense!

# If you trust them, then TRUST them

If your gut is telling you that you can trust them, then listen to it. Even if you know about their last relationship mishap, if you feel like you can trust them to not cheat again, then don’t label them as, “Once a cheater, always a cheater.”

# They were immature at the time

Think about when they cheated. It could’ve been when they were in high school or early college. Most people at this time are too immature to be serious about anyone, leading them to make bad decisions.

If it’s been a really long time and they haven’t been unfaithful since, you can assume their immaturity at the time is what caused the cheating, and you don’t have to worry about that anymore.

# They were insecure for some reason

I know it sounds silly; insecurity leading to someone scoring another person. But when people feel insecure-for whatever reason-they cheat because it makes them feel a lot better.

If you make them feel secure in themselves and you love them for them, they’re not going to need to seek approval from others. Maybe their past partner made them feel inadequate and it lead to being unfaithful.

# They didn’t have real feelings for them

This kind of goes along with being too immature. If they didn’t have real feelings for someone, then the remorse isn’t present enough to make them rethink their infidelity.

If they’ve developed real feelings for you and things are serious, they’re not going to skip out on you and hook up with the next hot person that walks in the door.