6 Tips To Start an Online Conversation With a Girl

However, that’s the best case scenario. Finding someone interesting online is a challenge in itself, but there are far more difficult things for you to get through. Problem number one? How to start an online conversation with a girl.

While online conversations might be easier than actual, face-to-face conversations, screwing it up is also relatively easy. There are many ways where you can go wrong, which lead you to seen-zoned and ignored. But what causes this? Is it your profile? Or how you started the conversation? Maybe a little bit of both?

# Understand how online conversations work

Think of this as the cardinal rule of online dating. Let’s admit it, the reason why some people fail in online conversations is because they have a very poor understanding why they’re there in the first place.

# Do some research

As the saying goes, don’t judge a book by its cover. As for online conversations, it means don’t judge a person by their profile photo. There is a wealth of information gathered by doing a little bit of mild stalking.

If you pay attention to what a girl puts in her profile, you gather ideas for what she does, her interests, and what kind of guy she likes. With this intel in your hands, you increase your chances of hooking up by anticipating how she will respond to you and gives you an idea of how to talk to her.

# Put up an appealing profile

Simply put, whatever you put in your profile information lends a hand to dating success or failure. If you’re checking a person’s profile, chances are others are checking yours out too. Basically, take advantage of presenting an ideal image of yourself. But take care not to overdo it. You don’t want to appear as a fraud. Make it idealistic, but realistic.

In setting up your profile, choose a flattering photo. It doesn’t need to look like it came out of a Vogue photo shoot but what’s important is that it represents your personality as much as your physical appearance. Only add genuine information about yourself depending on how much you want to reveal, and always leave a little room for mystery.

# Be polite and gentlemanly, aka don’t be a d*ck

It may sound preachy, but it is an important aspect of online conversations most people forget. Being shielded by partial anonymity doesn’t give you the right to be crass and uncouth especially when talking to a girl online.

If you’re only starting a conversation, keep that libidinous rage to yourself for the meantime. It is off-putting to begin spouting sexually-charged statements at the first click of the chat window. Try to be neutral and pleasant like a good boy. You have better chances getting that girl on a date if you’re truly interested in her, rather than what she’s packing.

# Make a list of questions or topics for the conversation

Assuming you managed to sustain the conversation beyond the first reply, sooner or later you face the problem of the online version of awkward silence. To avoid this, keep a list of conversation topics handy, so you won’t run out of things to talk about. It may look and feel silly to be that organized, but being prepared never hurt.

Put your questions and topics into categories like interests, career, family, friends, hang outs, music, movies, etc. However, try not to make the conversation sound like an interview. Pick and choose whichever is appropriate for the flow of the conversation. Assuming you did your “research” early on, jot those down as well.

# Pay attention to what she’s saying

Girls love it when a man listens to her, so pay attention to what she tells you. Use them later on because they will be good hints in getting to know her. Avoid the embarrassment of asking the same question twice just because you weren’t paying attention. Try not to dominate the conversation by flooding her with paragraphs of text. You may come off as narcissistic.