6 Top Things You Should Look For in A Guy

I know what you’re thinking… I have to choose only ten things to look for in a guy?! My list is at least double that amount! Making a list and focusing on what you want from another person can be a great exercise, but my challenge for you is to create a list with no more than ten traits that you absolutely, positively can’t live without in another person. (Your list can be shorter if you’d like.)

As a dating coach, I’ve had countless clients tell me that making a list felt scary and risky because once they really focused on what they wanted, they were afraid that their dating possibilities would shrink. Yes, your prospects will get smaller but that’s precisely the benefit of making a list—you won’t be wasting your time with the wrong guys any more.

# He makes you feel loved

Do you feel cared about, liked, and loved by the guy who you are with? Sure, it’s great to go on a fancy trip or have an exciting weekend, but how do you feel in his presence? If you feel special and valued, and he demonstrates that you’re the woman he wants to be with, then this guy is worthy of your time.

# He’s fiscally fit

Does your guy respect the value and importance of money? Does he spend more than he has or is he so cheap that it makes you cringe? Is saving part of his relationship with money? It’s important to feel that your guy is able to support himself and that he has a healthy, mature relationship with money.

# He doesn’t get jealous

Is your guy ecstatic when you land a new job, get a promotion, or have a great time without him when you’re with friends, coworkers or family? Being with someone who is resentful and envious when something good happens to you is draining and not good for your emotional well being.

# He respects you for who you are

Your guy loves you, for who you are, complete with all of your imperfections. He will always treat you with respect, whether it’s just the two of you or you’re with others. He may not always agree with you, but you always feel respected by him.

# He has confidence

A confident guy is able to say he’s sorry and stand up for himself, and he isn’t afraid of being wrong. His confidence brings out the best in you.

# He has a sense of humor

Life is full of unanticipated ups and downs, so being able to have a sense of humor, even during the more difficult times, is important. Can the guy you’re with laugh at himself? Does he not take himself too seriously? Humor warms the soul and sharing laughs both publicly and privately is one of the most intimate shared experiences you can have with someone.