When it comes to picking up girls, there is a tendency for us guys to rely upon the same old favored haunts and environments. There are reasons for this, of course. First of all, these places have been tried and tested, and have produced the right kind of result in the past. Secondly, there is a definite comfort factor to them. We probably know half the people there, and this provides a very welcome boost to our confidence. Finally, it’s quite probable that we have frequented these places for so long, that we no longer have any idea where else to go.
So where are the usual places that guys go to pick up girls and why change? What’s wrong with them? Well, the following list of three most typical sharking venues are discussed in turn, each with reasons as to exactly why they might not be the best of the available options.
# Nightclubs and bars
The number one choice for all ventures into the dating arena, nightclubs and bars provide a regular flow of conquests for the experienced chick-magnet. However, there are several reasons why this particular venue might not be quite as ideal as you think.
For a start, you are unlikely to obtain any real idea of what the girl you are talking to is actually like, with all that deafening music providing the ultimate barrier to communication. Next, alcohol often comes into play at these venues, and it impairs the judgment of both yourself and your potential conquest. This is unlikely to lead you to find the perfect date.
Finally, you have a significant chance when trawling the same old places of bumping into ex-girlfriends, their friends, their family and anyone else who now thinks that you exist somewhere on the evolutionary scale between sea slugs and vampire bats… And that’s not going to help your prospects now, is it?
# WorkThere are some occupations such as teachers and medical staff who work such long hours, that the only chance they have of meeting someone else of the opposite sex is at work – and they very often fall uncomplainingly into that very same stereotype.
However, this is not the ideal place to find someone to set up a relationship, if only because of what may happen if you separate at some point. Arguments, obstructiveness, pettiness and awkwardness are bound to spring up – which is exactly why so many employers have clauses in their contracts dissuading workers from doing that. Even if separation is not forthcoming, your personal life might interfere with your professional life, as well.
# Through friends and familyThe fall back of the wallflower, getting a date through family and friends can not only just be a little bit pathetic, but it also has the potential for severe repercussions. Separation is hard enough, but what you really don’t want is family and/or friends getting on your back – or even falling out with you – as a result.
# The supermarketThis sounds like a really strange option, but it has become an increasingly popular one, so much so that in the UK, a few years ago, many of the leading supermarkets introduced a singles shopping night once a week in the later hours. It’s hard to tell what kind of woman you’d end up with if you give this a go, but one advantage of the glaring bright, white supermarket lights is that you’ll be able to see straight through any heavily administered attempts at make-up camouflage.
# The internet
Another increasingly popular option, and once the subject of ridicule. However, there is no better way of getting to know someone without actually having to commit to meeting them, until you are truly sure you want to progress the relationship. And you get to know everything about them in advance, so that you can prepare accordingly.
# Library or bookstoreAnother great option. Full of people browsing at their own pace and there are bound to be a few ladies in there who tickle your fancy. It’s one of the only places where you can linger in their presence without looking like a stalker, and you can also learn something about them in advance from which aisles they’re frequenting.