Second chances are easier said than done. Couples can hold onto resentment and won’t let go of what happened in the past when the two of you actually manage to makeup which can lead to arguments and even another breakup!
Getting back together with an ex is a huge decision to make. There are so many things that can go wrong and you’re putting your heart on the line again. But if you believe your breakup was a mistake and you want to mend your problems and be with them again, then you should.
So if you’re serious about going from breakup to makeup with an ex, you’ll need these ways to make it happen. With these tips, a good attitude, and some love, you’ll be back together and better than ever!
# Talk about your problems
Obviously you two broke up for a reason and you can’t just ignore it. You have to talk about the breakup and everything that led up to it. Get all of your issues out in the open now, so you can actually have a clean slate if you both decide to get back together.
Letting old problems remain and fester after you are back together may just lead to another breakup. It’s best to talk things out, come up with a solution, and move on from it together.
# Set boundariesFor all intents and purposes, your relationship is new. It is fresh. It is time to set new boundaries. Talk about what you’re okay and not okay with them doing and just agree on things in general that are important to both of you.
Boundaries are a perfect way to avoid past mistakes and keep your relationship happy and healthy.
# Be serious about itDon’t just jump right back into things without even thinking them through. Both of you have to take the breakup and your makeup seriously if you really want to make it work. No messing around on them just because you guys broke up and got back together.
# Have better communicationBad communication is a major reason many couples end up in Splitsville. While their actual breakup may have been because of something else, that very same issue may be solved with just a little more communication.
If you really want to makeup and have a better relationship this go-round, you really need to up your communication game and clue them in on all the things that upset you and vice versa.
# Discuss the future. It needs to happenIf you’re getting back together, the future should be one of the first things you talk about. There’s no point in making a relationship work if you guys don’t have futures that line up.
Talk about your plans, your values, your life goals, and what you envision for your future. If the two of you find your future align well together, then it’s worth making things work. If you discover things are looking different, maybe a makeup isn’t a good plan.
# Assess your true feelings for themAre you really in love with them? Or are you only upset about the breakup because you were so used to having them around and now you just feel bored or like your life is missing something?
You really have to assess your true feelings for your partner. If you can’t reciprocate the same feelings they have towards you or you realize you just don’t feel as much for them anymore, the breakup should stay permanent.