As Mahatma Gandhi once said, “Be the change you wish to see in the world.” He never said anything about waiting for your father to hand it to you on a silver platter. Neither did he say anything about sitting on your ass and waiting for good things to come your way.
Always remember that the world doesn’t owe you anything. What have you done to make it a better place that you deserve good things to come your way without even trying? There are 7 billion people on this planet. You do not deserve anything more than that dude blissfully playing with his hacky sack across the street? Or the barista who made your latte this morning. Or that lady in the pink hat on the bus. Or your doorman whom you see every morning.
Although you are entitled to being happy, you are not entitled to anything you don’t work hard for. If you think otherwise, then you are certainly too naive for your own good. Working hard to accomplish something will bring you a sense of satisfaction and pride that you will never get the chance to feel, if someone else were to give it to you.
# Grow upFor one, stop expecting everyone around you to continuously breastfeed you. From your parents to friends to professors to lovers to colleagues, it’s no one’s job to give you what you want and need. You have to seek it out yourself.
The first step that you have to take is to recognize that you have a ridiculous sense of entitlement. Acknowledge its presence, respect that it has been a big part of your life, then quash it like a poisonous spider. Grow up and make sure you do so quickly. In the real world, there’s no such thing as running home to mommy and daddy. It all comes down to you being independent and getting just what you deserve.
# Stop accepting handoutsIt is certainly very easy to sit around and expect everything to fall on your lap. Whether you’re expecting your uncle to pull strings to get you a job or expecting your brother to call in a favor for you when you’re in a jam or expecting your boyfriend to chip in for your car payment or still living at your parents’ although you’re well into your thirties, learn to stop expecting others to give you things that you can do for yourself.
Have a sense of pride and respect for yourself, won’t you? Understand that there’s a difference between being offered help and expecting it.
# Get your hands dirty
Don’t be afraid of hard work, because that’s the only way for you to learn that life isn’t all fun and games. Even the world’s top billionaires will tell you that it took them hard work, sweat and tears to get there.
Take billionaire investor and businessman Mark Cuban, for example. He may live a very lavish life now, but his success is all thanks to him and him alone. He did everything from selling garbage bags to bar-tending. Now worth over $3 billion, he clawed his way to the top by working hard at school, at work and in life. If he can get his hands dirty, so can you.
# VolunteerAs you probably come from a privileged background, there’s a very high chance that you’ve no idea what the rest of the world has to go through, just to earn the bare necessities in life that you take for granted. One great way for you to see things through their eyes is to volunteer.
If you are able to go abroad, then do it. Refugees in Thailand, orphans in Ethiopia, struggling tribes in Sulawesi, there are people all over the world who live a life that is very different from yours. I’m sure that you will even be able to secure yourself volunteer opportunities in your own backyard. Wait no longer to see that the world is a huge place with plenty of problems, and that you feeling entitled to a huge slice of the pie is just downright ridiculous.
# Attempt something unexpected
Push yourself to the limits, stretch yourself thin and bend until you snap. Traveling is a great way for you to do this. Remember that flying first class and staying at luxury resorts do not count. Stay at backpacker inns and hostels, and meet people from all walks of life.
You will be surprised at how little you know about the world, until you actually see it through the eyes of others who truly understand it. From signing up for working holiday visas and working on an orchard in Australia to spending your summer cleaning and packing salmon in Alaska, go the distance and prove to yourself that you can accomplish anything, no matter how challenging.
# Be grateful
Another way to rid yourself of that sense of entitlement is to be grateful. It’s not about squealing in delight and thanking your lover for buying you that convertible you wanted. It’s not about donating some cash to a local charity, just because you think it’ll help. It’s not about being dependent on someone else, when you are fully equipped to take on the world and be great at it. It’s really about realizing just how easy you’ve had it all these years.
You already have so much in life, so why do you need someone to feed you more privileges? Yes, it’s certainly fun and so much easier, but you do realize that being a self-centered prick isn’t going to get you anywhere in the long run? Why can’t you just go out there and transform that sense of entitlement that you have into doing something productive and worthwhile? Be grateful for what you have first, before going out and procuring more.