6 Ways To Stroke The Male Ego With Total Success

Ah, the famous male ego. Easily damaged, yet extremely powerful, learning how to stroke the male ego will put you in control, even if he thinks he’s the one pulling all the relationship strings!

Of course, in a healthy relationship, there is no space for ego. In this case I’m not talking about an inflated sense of self or having a head so big it won’t fit through the door. I’m talking about the male ego; the need to feel like they’re making you happy. They want to feel like they’re protecting you and being the alpha male character.

Whether you want him to actually be an alpha male or not, the male ego has a need to think that way. So, if you want your relationship to flourish and for your guy to feel like a king, let’s check out nine easy ways you can learn how to stroke the male ego.

# Tell him he’s great

If you want to learn how to stroke the male ego effectively, tell him how great he is but in an occasional and powerful way. Don’t do it all the time.

There’s no need to tell him that he’s the best at driving, cooking, cleaning, etc. Just every so often, tell him that he’s great, and that he’s an expert at something which is important to him. For instance, if he’s proud of his car and how he drives, you could tell him that you think he’s a great driver and that you always feel safe when you’re in the car with him.

# Make him think that great ideas are his, even when they’re yours

Again, don’t do this all the time. You need to have credit for good ideas too! When you want him to think that something great is his idea, and get him to be more likely to do it, you’re stroking his ego in a very subtle way.

For instance, if you want to go away for the weekend but you’re not sure if he’s going to go for it, twist it around and say that there’s a show on in such and such a place that he always wanted to see. He will then probably say that you should go together. Boom! You’ve come up with an idea and basically made it seem like it was his. Okay, so it’s manipulative to a degree, but not negatively. And it’s a good way to learn how to stroke the male ego and still get what you want!

# Tell him that you feel safe around him

A man wants to protect his partner. It’s almost like it’s engrained in his inner psyche. So, telling him that you always feel safe and protected when you’re with him is going to do a lot of ego boosting!

You don’t have to play the weaker one in the relationship to say this or make him feel this way. It’s actually more of a compliment for it to come from a partner who is independent and strong within themselves. In that case, he’s going to really feel like you mean it. Mission accomplished!

# Build him up in front of your friends

You have to do this in an authentic way, but complimenting him when he’s there and your friends are also in attendance is a great way to make him feel good. It’s almost going to be like the peacock puffing out his feathers!

However, less is more here. Just one compliment with a quick reason why is enough. Don’t go on and on; otherwise, he might feel embarrassed and that will have the opposite effect.

# Make him proud of you

This one might seem odd, but a way to learn how to stroke the male ego is to be yourself. Be strong and independent, and basically make him proud to be with you. Most men don’t want to be around partners who are overly needy and who rely upon them for everything. That’s not the type of relationship you want either.

However, being yourself, sticking with your dreams, working hard, and spending time with your friend while prioritizing him too will all work in your favor and in his at the same time.

# Pay enough attention to him

You’re not going to do anything for your guy’s ego if you don’t pay him attention. That doesn’t mean you should drop everything for him when he walks into the room but you should give him the amount of attention he deserves and make sure he feels he’s a priority in your life. By doing that, you’re stroking his ego because he knows he’s doing something right in the relationship.