Everyone goes through phases in a relationship where it seems as though you have lost attraction for one another. Affection comes to a screeching halt and you’re both left feeling deprived and sometimes even insecure and afraid.
This phenomenon is definitely not uncommon. This happens to couples near and far–and yet somehow everything seems to work out-for the most part, anyway. It isn’t that you don’t find them attractive. It’s just that you two have lost that initial spark that gets the fire going.
Whenever I feel like the attraction is wearing off in a relationship, I stop and think about why that might be. Are we just too busy to notice each other? Did they do something that I don’t think is attractive and now I just can’t seem to feel the attraction anymore?
# Take time to miss each otherWhen you are always together and you see each other often, you become numb to the way they look and the things they do. Basically, you’re too used to them being around to find any attraction in it.
You both need to take time to miss each other. The old saying, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder,” is absolutely true and you need to put it into practice. Spend some time apart. Go spend a couple of nights with a friend and just enjoy yourself. Not only will your partner miss you when you’re gone, but you’ll come back relaxed and happy – another attractive trait.
# Start dating each other again
This may sound silly since obviously you two are dating already, but hear me out. Do you remember the kinds of dates you both went on in the beginning of the relationship? The ones where you couldn’t wait to get home and rip their clothes off and have your way with them?
Those are the kinds of dates I’m talking about! Don’t just get dinner at the drive through. Sitting in a car for ten minutes is not going to get any sparks going. Go on actual dates so you can feel like it’s the start of your relationship again. Nothing will get the fire started like remembering how you felt in the beginning.
# Put some effort into your appearance
I know this may sound vain, but seriously! I bet since you guys have been together for a long time, you have probably grown lax in trying to look nice for each other. You ladies are probably not putting on makeup as often, and you guys are probably not shaving so much either.
As bad as it may sound, your physical appearance is a huge part of why they wanted to be with you in the first place. And although they may think you look great without all of that stuff, there’s no denying that your significant other would go wild just to see you dolled up and looking hot.
# Reduce the stress in your lifeStress can play a key role in people losing attraction for each other. If you’re too stressed out in your everyday life, it can be really hard to turn it off when you get home and enjoy the company of your special someone.
Exercising regularly and doing stress-relieving exercises at home is a great way to keep stress at bay. Not only will exercising get you into shape and make your partner see you in a new light, but it will make you feel better about yourself and you’ll feel way sexier and more confident!
# Do some recreational activities togetherCouples thrive on shared experiences. It’s time for you both to let loose and have a good time. It’s a great way for the two of you to find a common hobby and work together.
Join a local sand volleyball team during the summer months, or take up bowling and join a league. Seeing your partner excel at something is sure to make you find them attractive again. And even if you both suck at it, at least you suck together and can bond over the experience.
# Try something new with themWhether it be a new activity, food, restaurant, or even a sex position, trying new things with each other is another method to reconnect in a way that you haven’t in a long time.
Whenever you try something new, you are creating a compelling memory with that other person. I know I can never even eat edamame without thinking about one of my exes because he forced me to eat those weird green things! But since I ended up loving them, I had him to thank for it. Seeing your significant other being adventurous is extremely sexy.