If you’ve ever been cheated on, you know how hurtful it can be. You also know that a cheating partner always acts slightly differently than they normally do. That’s how they get caught. This change in behavior is most often known as the affair fog.
However, not every victim will be able to tell when their significant other isn’t being faithful. Sometimes their affair fog can be so subtle that it’s hard to tell. And oftentimes, people don’t even think badly of their partner’s change in behavior.
# They seem distractedAffair fog is all about your partner being under a sort of “spell” by someone else. They’re distracted and not themselves. If you notice this type of behavior from your significant other, monitor it closely.
When they seem spacy and not present during conversations, it’s because something else is taking up space in their mind. That could be the person they’re seeing on the side.
# They’re in a good mood – until you bring up their good moodThis is definitely something an affair fog is known for. If your partner is having an affair, they’re on a high. They feel great! Imagine how you felt when you first fell in love with your partner. You were giddy and in a great mood.
An affair fog works the same way. They’re going through all those same feelings they had in the beginning of your relationship, just with someone else.
So they may be in a good mood, but they’re also feeling very guilty. And when you remind them that they’re happy and ask them why they’re in such a good mood these days, it fills them with that guilt and takes them down from that high.
# They start fights out of nowhereThis has a LOT to do with the affair fog. Oftentimes, when they’re cheating on you, they need to justify their actions. They know what they’re doing is wrong but instead of stopping, they find reasons to make it okay.
So they start picking fights with you just to stay angry with you. Because in their mind, if they’re mad at you, they can justify why they’re being happy with someone else.
# They get annoyed at nice things you do for themDo you have a habit of doing nice, sweet things for your partner? If you were in a previously healthy relationship, then you probably did all the time. Is your partner getting annoyed with those same things now?
If so, it could be the affair fog. When you do nice things, it ruins the image in their head of you being this awful person they’ve concocted in order to justify their actions.
You being nice makes them feel even more guilty so in order to get rid of those feelings, they want to get you to stop doing those things. AKA, they get mad when you do.
# They pull away from you emotionallyThis will be very obvious. When you’re very close with someone and they pull away emotionally, you should be able to tell. They won’t discuss their feelings with you and they won’t really ask you how you’re feeling anymore.
This is a means to protect themselves from feeling guilty. If they’re not emotionally attached, they won’t feel as though they’re hurting you – even though they are.
# They’re putting their hobbies and interests on the backburner
When some people get deep into an affair fog, they forget about their real life altogether. As a means to pretend they’re not doing anything wrong, they dissociate themselves from the norm.
So if they’ve stopped engaging in their normal hobbies and interests, something could be up.
# They are upset with you for seemingly no reasonAgain, this happens because mentally, they’re tearing you apart for being a horrible partner. This can be completely false. You could be the best boyfriend or girlfriend in the world but if they’re having an affair, that affair fog will make them see you as a villain who’s not allowing them to live their life.
Those negative thoughts about you will make them mad at you all the time. You could’ve done nothing wrong at all. It’s all internal. The affair fog is making them manipulate themselves.