7 Effective Ways To Deal With Jealousy

Jaelousy is one the that emotion that leads to self destruction. It might also lead to unpleasant qualities such as possessiveness, anger outbursts and overthinking, which are sure ingredients for destroying any relationship, regardless of how rock-solid they may look like. Once I realized my jealousy was out of control, I made sure that I was following the necessary steps to deal with it before it destroyed me. You can start by finding out why you are jealous in the first place. After some in-depth soul searching, I realized that having extreme self-esteem issues or being in a toxic relationship can evoke a lot of jealousy. Either way, by identifying my flaws, I was able to overcome whatever was making me jealous.

# Avoid situations and people who cause doubt in my life

If I want to successfully deal with jealousy, I identify and get rid of people who are responsible for causing it in the first place. I first start with people who make me feel as though I’m not good enough. We all have that one friend or relative who always doubts your plans, and those are the ones that got to go. I remember when I started going to the gym, some friends openly joked about my skinny frame and how I was just wasting my time. After a while, I realized that people like these usually envy the fact that I was separating myself from their mediocrity. That way, they opted to do just about anything to make sure that I was doubting myself. I also realized that I start experiencing feelings of jealousy towards other people’s progress, be it in marriage or sports, when I feel like I can’t do better than what I do. So, I chose to focus on myself rather than envying people whose grass looked a couple of shades greener. And the moment I did that, my life took a turn for the better.

# Deal with jealousy by improving myself

Whenever the feelings of jealousy start crawling up my head, I immediately replace those thoughts with positive ones about improving myself. Am I jealous of a certain rapper who seems to be getting so many positive reviews? So, what I get to do is get back to my little home office and start playing the latest beats, take a pen and paper, and start practicing on my lyrics and flow.

# Being flexible helps me deal with feelings of jealousy

I compromise for those that I deeply care about since I realized that if you don’t, then it is easy for envy to take root in my life. So, if it’s in my marriage, I forgive and move on as quickly as I can in order to avoid brooding over issues that lead to possessiveness, which is unattractive.

# Opening up helps me to deal with jealousy

A problem shared is a problem half-solved. That being said, whenever I start having jealousy feelings, I immediately find someone to talk to. Thankfully, I do have a lot of great people in my circle who double up as a support system. They will always be ready to give me information and advice about my relationship problems, and through their wisdom, I can find better ways to overcome any feelings of jealousy. Once I talk to someone, I realize that some pressure has been offloaded from my system and I can immediately replace that with positivity and nothing else. So, I always make it a habit to talk about my problems, but only to people that I trust.

# Taking a timeout helps me to deal with jealousy

Meditation is a sure way of dealing with jealousy because it helps me to discipline my emotions. I am not perfect, no one is. So, I always make sure that I am doing all in my power to meditate at least for ten minutes every single day. I always tell myself that I am perfect just the way I am and if there is anyone who doesn’t feel that way, then it’s their loss and not mine. I have been doing that and now it sure feels like a mantra.

# Deal with jealousy by not being paranoid

It goes without saying that envy can end a beautiful marriage just because of the possessiveness/clinginess that comes with it. So, I made it my point to always think less, especially when it came to matters that are beyond my control. Overthinking is the mother of paranoia, so I always try to think positive and send positive vibration into the universe and they always come back. Once again, jealousy is a weak emotion that needs to be avoided by any necessary means.

# Deal with jealousy by having clear-cut standards

Whether in a romantic relationship or any other form of relationship, I always set certain standards and abide by them. I always make sure that I am always at my best and if someone opts to cheat on me or do anything of that ilk, it’s their loss, not mine. I simply put up a hurdle and they just didn’t make it. So, I can’t start feeling jealous over someone who isn’t good enough for me. Did she cheat on me? Good. Then I wish her all the success in the world and I move on to something much better. If you don’t have certain standards, you will fail to overcome anything because that is where doubts will come in. But with my standards, I always move on quickly because I have zero doubts about my abilities and well-being.