7 Major Signs of a Selfish Boyfriend

Being with a selfish boyfriend is extremely frustrating and makes you question whether you should be in this relationship at all. Your boyfriend couldn’t care less about you while you can’t stop caring about him. Not only do selfish boyfriends not want to contribute anything in a relationship, but they are also inconsiderate of the efforts you put in every day to make it work.

Being perpetually ungrateful is one of the traits of a selfish man. A selfish boyfriend is unappreciative, mean and can be stingy too. Look out for these selfish boyfriend signs to understand whether you still want to be in a relationship where you are the only one trying to make it work.

# He will always talk about himself

People that are selfish are obsessed with themselves. You will notice that no matter what the situation is, your conversations will always be about him. All he cares about is his feelings and his image even when you are going through tough times. He might make it seem like he is interested in your life, but it will be easy for you to see through his fake concern.

He won’t be attentive when you are talking and will not offer you any solutions or try to help you unless it benefits him. In reality, he is just warming you up so that you sit and listen to his on-going stories without complaint. Remember when he started by saying, “Honey, how was your day?” and interrupted you after a few minutes and didn’t stop talking about his office colleagues or his incredible presentation? He wanted to hear you (halfheartedly) only so that he could be heard.

# He controls everything you do

Whenever you guys make a collective decision, you will notice that he has the last say and his opinions will always be right. You are the other half of the relationship and should have an equal say in whatever decision is made. Your opinion should matter to him. This can be reflected in small matters as well. Let’s say you want to eat Italian and he wants to eat Chinese, if you are dating a selfish boyfriend then you will end up going to a Chinese restaurant. This will happen repeatedly and your preference will never be considered.

# He is incredibly defensive

Whenever you question him or confront him, he will always get defensive and will somehow make it your fault. He will do anything to protect his flaws, even if it means highlighting yours. He will never accept his fault and will find ways to make you feel guilty. He thinks he is perfect and will not take criticism well. He is mean and inconsiderate and thinks that it’s perfectly okay to be that way.

We know of a woman who confronted her boyfriend after he cancelled on her last minute, because he made plans with his friends. She told him that he did this frequently while she took time out for him. She went on to say did not appreciate his flaky behavior. He immediately told her she was being a clingy girlfriend and said he felt suffocated in their relationship. He failed to acknowledge his error and rather, made her question her self-worth.

# He is selfish in bed too

Consider the following scenario. He takes you out on a date and you two have an absolutely splendid time. Your boyfriend is feeling all romantic and wants to have sex with you. You tell him how you’d just like to cuddle instead or are not in the mood, but he keeps on insisting, putting his hand under your shirt. He starts getting annoyed when you try to convince him that you are not in the mood. But in the end, you have to give in to his urges.

# He will never compromise

He sees the world from his point of view and thus others must adjust to the world that he has created in his mind. He will never apologize, even if he is in the wrong. This also means he will never compromise or meet you halfway. When you suggest solutions that will satisfy both your needs to some extent, he will get angry because he wants everything to be done his way.

# Being insecure is one of the traits of a selfish man

People feel insecure when they see something or someone as a threat. His insecurities relate to the fact that someone else might take his position or he may lose control in your life or in social settings. He always wants to feel like he is the center of attention and will not be able to tolerate it if he feels like he is not the most important person in your life.

The fear of being replaced by someone else could be haunting him and making him act irrational. Moreover, if he is insecure about something you do or some decision you make, then it is because he fears that it might cause harm to something that benefits him or is important to him. This could make him even more insecure and turn him into a possessive control freak.

# He never surprises you

So you are being a nice girlfriend, surprising him with gifts and planning wonderful dates and trying everything he desires in bed. You never mind going the extra mile to make him happy. But does he do that for you? If he is a selfish boyfriend then the answer is probably no. He will never go out of his way to please you or plan any romantic gestures. He will never get you those roses or that perfume, that you wished for. It is quite likely that he will not acknowledge or appreciate the things you do for him and takes you for granted.