If you are looking for signs you’re being cheated on, I am sorry to say that there is a good chance you have already missed some. We never want to admit the truth, especially when it makes us feel foolish and rejected. But, we also don’t want to ruin our relationship with baseless accusations.
Knowing when someone is cheating on you is not an exact science. Boy, do I wish it was! I have been cheated on more times than I would like to share. But, that does not mean I am a relationship failure. It does not mean I am not worthy of love. All it means is that I am super unlucky.
And after all those betrayals I realized I overlooked the signs you’re being cheated on. Some of those are obvious. You might find it crazy that you didn’t see it, while others are subtle. Just please try not to drive yourself crazy over this. Even if you have been cheated on before, paranoia will not help get to the bottom of it.
# They protect their privacy intenselyWe all have things on our phone we may not want our partner to see. Like those 100 selfies you took or your addiction to teen vampire fandom chatrooms. For most of us, it would not be the end of the world if our partner discovered these things.
But, for someone who cheats, they will guard their phone with their life. They take it to the bathroom, closet, really anywhere. They never leave you alone with it. Sure, some people are just like that I guess, but if they went from being fine with you borrowing their phone to keeping it too close, something is up.
# They did it before
As I said, I put a lot of sincerity into once a cheater always a cheater. Of course, it is not always the case, but if you know for a fact your partner has cheated on you or their ex and are feeling like they might be, there is a good chance they are.
Someone who has cheated before is much more likely to do it again than someone who hasn’t.
# They accuse you of cheatingMakes sense, right? Well, they put their fears of being caught and guilt of what they are doing onto you. Maybe they think it will make them feel better. Maybe they think it will throw you off their trail. Or they think if they are capable of cheating, then so are you.
Either way, a partner accusing you of cheating, especially if it is completely out of the blue, maybe trying to take the heat off themselves.
# You’ve heard rumorsYour friend said they saw your boo with some random guy or gal at dinner. Or maybe there are office whispers that there is flirting going on or that they go on long lunches with their assistant.
Rumors may not always be true, but they usually don’t start from absolutely nothing.
# They cheated with youYes, I know. You think they could never do it to you, but if they cheated with you, they are perfectly capable of cheating on you. From day one that is something to consider.
I myself was in this situation. My ex and I weren’t cheating, but he was very strict about keeping us a secret. From day one I could feel the guilt of keeping secrets form into bad karma. If I had listened to my gut I could have avoided four years of being cheated on.
# They memorize your schedule
How many boyfriends or girlfriends memorize each other’s schedules? My parents have been married over 30 years and my dad still checks the calendar to see when my mom goes to work.
So, if your partner is watching your movements like a hawk they aren’t just being informed, they are hiding something. I am not saying this is one of the most obvious signs you’re being cheated on, but I am not saying it isn’t.
# They are super distant or super clingy
This is confusing, isn’t it? But if their behavior has changed one way or the other, that is a sign that something is up. Right before my last boyfriend cheated on me he bought me gifts, promised he could never leave me, and was way more touchy-feely than ever before.
Any major change in behavior could be a sign you’re being cheated on.