7 Signs She is Playing Hard To Get

People can be hard to read. Did your mom ever tell you that bullies were just jealous of you? Maybe you wanted to believe it. But you were never really sure. It’s a similar situation when someone says “She’s just playing hard to get.” Is she really?

In this feature, we dive deep into the female psyche to learn why women play hard to get. Is the woman you’re pursuing actually into you? If she’s not, these signs will help you see the truth. If she is interested and just wants you to pursue her harder, then you’ll know you should keep trying.

So you’re confused by a girl’s behavior towards you. Is she playing hard to get? Or is she just taking her time to get to know you better?

Here, you can definitely know the answer to your question, is she playing hard to get. Can you find several of these signs in her behavior? Then it may just be the time to stop pursuing her, and treat her as a friend or walk away from her life.

# Doesn’t answer your texts

There are unofficial dating rules about when or how often one should text someone. So it can be normal that she’s not in a rush to get back to your messages. But, if you text her and get no response at all even after a day or two, she isn’t just playing hard to get. It probably means she isn’t interested in you.

People have their own lives to take care of – work, family, social events. But when a woman is interested, she will never forget that you texted her. She will be mindful of how long she takes to answer your text. And she will also take note of how long you take to answer hers.

# Her answers are always short

Perhaps she doesn’t completely blow you off. Maybe she takes her sweet time getting back to you. But her response to your texts is also something you should pay attention to.

If she waits for several days and gives you one-word answers, that is her guilty conscience talking. She doesn’t want to hurt you. But also, she doesn’t want to lead you on. She is just trying to be polite.

# Doesn’t try to encourage a conversation

Whether it is via text or in person, talking to her shouldn’t feel like a struggle.If she is playing hard to get, she may keep her replies short and closed. On the other hand, if she does like you, she may pretend like she doesn’t care about you, but she may still find ways to keep the conversation going with you by using open-ended responses.

# She is always busy

Is she constantly declining invitations to hang out? This is a big red flag that tells you she is not playing hard to get. Especially if she says she’s busy, but doesn’t offer any other alternative dates.

No woman that’s into you will make you work that hard. She may make you do all of the hard work yourself by asking her out, sure. But at some point, she will accept the invitation. Or suggest another time that fits her better.

# Never tries to make plans

Another red flag to know she’s not playing hard to get is that she never tries to make plans herself. If she is playing hard to get, she will either wait for you to ask her out, or she will invite you herself. If she is not interested though, that thought won’t ever cross her mind.

Did she decline your invitation, without getting back to you with another date and time? It may be time to move on to someone else.

# She blows you off

Maybe she’s teasing you and having a bit of fun at your expense. She turns you down once, or twice, but flirts and makes you believe all is not lost just yet. But if it happens more times than that though, she is not playing hard to get, she is playing you.

The end game of playing hard to get is to make someone value you and respect you enough to take you seriously. If she likes you, she wouldn’t want to decline your advances or shut you out completely. If she blows you off, then she isn’t looking for you to be her number one. It’s more honest to assume she just isn’t that into you and enjoys using you because she’s bored.

# You don’t meet anyone in her circle

If she is into you, it’s only a matter of time before she wants you to meet her friends. She will at least start to tell you stories that involve people in her circle in your regular conversations. But if she doesn’t share anything personal with you, it’s likely that she doesn’t look at you that way.