7 Signs You Need To Know To Stop Pursuing Her

People can be hard to read. Did your mom ever tell you that bullies were just jealous of you? Maybe you wanted to believe it. But you were never really sure. It’s a similar situation when someone says “She’s just playing hard to get.” Is she really?

In this feature, we dive deep into the female psyche to learn why women play hard to get. Is the woman you’re pursuing actually into you? If she’s not, these signs will help you see the truth. If she is interested and just wants you to pursue her harder, then you’ll know you should keep trying.

So you’re confused by a girl’s behavior towards you. Is she playing hard to get? Or is she just taking her time to get to know you better?

Here, you can definitely know the answer to your question, is she playing hard to get. Can you find several of these signs in her behavior? Then it may just be the time to stop pursuing her, and treat her as a friend or walk away from her life.

# Doesn’t answer your texts

There are unofficial dating rules about when or how often one should text someone. So it can be normal that she’s not in a rush to get back to your messages. But, if you text her and get no response at all even after a day or two, she isn’t just playing hard to get. It probably means she isn’t interested in you.

People have their own lives to take care of – work, family, social events. But when a woman is interested, she will never forget that you texted her. She will be mindful of how long she takes to answer your text. And she will also take note of how long you take to answer hers.

So if she’s simply ignoring your messages, and it feels like she doesn’t want to text back, then she probably isn’t playing hard to get, she just isn’t interested.

# Her answers are always short

Perhaps she doesn’t completely blow you off. Maybe she takes her sweet time getting back to you. But her response to your texts is also something you should pay attention to.

If she waits for several days and gives you one-word answers, that is her guilty conscience talking. She doesn’t want to hurt you. But also, she doesn’t want to lead you on. She is just trying to be polite.

On the other hand, if she answers within an hour or two, asks questions, and makes it easy to continue the conversation effortlessly, then she is probably just making you work for it. Big difference.

# Doesn’t try to encourage a conversation

Whether it is via text or in person, talking to her shouldn’t feel like a struggle.

If she is playing hard to get, she may keep her replies short and closed. On the other hand, if she does like you, she may pretend like she doesn’t care about you, but she may still find ways to keep the conversation going with you by using open-ended responses.

If she doesn’t like you, you’ll probably find yourself scrambling for a topic of conversation all the time. And she won’t make it easy for you.

Remember, a conversation should be a two-way street. If it’s not, then she is most likely not simply playing hard to get.

# She is always busy

Is she constantly declining invitations to hang out? This is a big red flag that tells you she is not playing hard to get. Especially if she says she’s busy, but doesn’t offer any other alternative dates.

No woman that’s into you will make you work that hard. She may make you do all of the hard work yourself by asking her out, sure. But at some point, she will accept the invitation. Or suggest another time that fits her better.

If she seems interested in you, but keeps declining a date with you, try the magic rule of “three.” Ask her out three times if she tells you she’s busy. If she’s flirting with you, but still not interested in a date, give up and move on.

# Never tries to make plans

Another red flag to know she’s not playing hard to get is that she never tries to make plans herself. If she is playing hard to get, she will either wait for you to ask her out, or she will invite you herself. If she is not interested though, that thought won’t ever cross her mind.

Did she decline your invitation, without getting back to you with another date and time? It may be time to move on to someone else.