7 Signs Your Hook Up is Heading for Heartbreak

These days, we have far more options when it comes to dating. If we want to date, go for it, if we don’t, so what? But, what if you have needs? This is where the grey area of sleeping together but not dating comes into play.

If you’ve ever had a friend with benefits, or perhaps a hook up buddy, you will have either embraced the situation for everything it was, or you might have walked away from it a little emotionally bruised. The reason? Sleeping together but not dating is dangerous. Emotions usually get involved on one side. And, if the feeling isn’t mutual, the friendship can be damaged.

It’s important to keep an eye on your emotions and the situation around you. If you just carry on blindly, you could end up in a situation that pushes you towards certain heartbreak. It’s a good idea to be aware of the signs that it’s about to go spectacularly wrong beforehand, so you can abort mission and get out of there pronto.

# You start to get butterflies whenever you’re due to see them

And no, we don’t mean the sexy kind. If you start to look forward to meeting up with your hook up and it’s not about the sex, that’s red flag. It means you’re starting to develop feelings and if they don’t feel the same, that could spell disaster.

# The green eyed monster comes out to play

If you start to feel jealous of the people your hook up is spending time with, ask yourself why. You’re not committed to this person and vice versa. Most arrangements such as this aren’t exclusive.

# You’re waiting for them to want more

Be honest. Do you really want more with this person and you’re sticking with a sleeping together only situation for the time being? Are you hoping that they’ll change their mind? You’ve caught feelings badly and you’re sticking with a situation that’s going to cause you heartbreak. Talk about it or move on.

# You’re exclusive with them, but they’re not with you

If you’re not sleeping with anyone else because you’re sleeping with them, but they are, what does that tell you? If you’re going to be exclusive, you both need to be. The fact that you’re only with them but they’re with more than you shows that you’re trying to push the situation-ship towards something more.

# You’re starting to become needy

If your clingy side is starting to emerge that means that your feelings are involved. Sleeping together but not dating only works well when you’re totally detached emotionally. When you become needy or clingy, you’re trying to get their attention in a different way. That is not going to end well in this type of situation.

# Your friends are worried about you

Have your friends expressed a worry about the type of arrangement you’re in and how it’s affecting you? That’s not something to ignore. They’re not being difficult or trying to affect you’re happiness. They care about you and they know you better than yourself right now.

# You pass over opportunities with people who want the same as you

If deep down you do want a relationship and you’re sleeping with someone casually, it’s a problem. However, if you’re passing over dates and opportunities with people who like you and want the same as you, you’re heading for heartbreak. You’re only going to look back on this and regret the time you lost.