7 Signs Your partner is Not Hearing You Out

In a relationship, two people have needs that demand to be met. These are usually the things that are required from two people in a relationship, i.e. time, attention and affection. If you’re not willing to shell out on any of those, there’s no point in pursuing a relationship.

Every relationship is different, which means that there will be needs that are specially tailored to your loved one. It could be anything from a Sunday brunch ritual, flowers on every anniversary or even an STD check once a year. Who knows what people ask for these days? The important thing to remember is that you are entitled to a listening ear no matter what you want to ask your partner.

When your relationship reaches a point where you keep on asking for the same thing over and over but never see any results, it might be time to rearrange your priorities and demand a sit-down session with your partner.

# They have subjective memory loss

When you partner keeps forgetting what you asked, but remembers all of their friends’ birthdays, anniversaries and promotion dinners, they’re not listening to you.

# They become busy whenever you start to talk

If you really want to get your partner to do their chores, just tell them that you want to talk. They usually remember something that they forgot to fix or do whenever you attempt to discuss something that they don’t want to be a part of.

# They continue to repeat their offenses and are quick to apologize immediately after

This could be a sign that they have no intention of changing their minds on the subject. Apologies are well and good if they are sincere. If they are used to deflect anger and admonishments, then your demands probably mean nothing to them.

# They prefer to argue about the issue until you get tired

They know you’re going to stop hounding them eventually. All they have to do is speed the process up. Agitating you to the point of silence usually works.

# They compare your situation to other people

Just because your friends’ problems have been resolved in a different way does not mean that you have to do the exact same thing. Not all of your problems are similar. Your partner just wants to validate that other people are doing the right thing in order to prove that you’re wrong.

# They sleep on it

They will always promise to think about it or handle it the next morning, the next week or the next month. When the deadline keeps getting moved, you’re in trouble. They probably have no desire to handle the situation at all, and are just stalling for time until you get tired of the issue.

# They lash out and make you feel bad about it

Some people think the only way to avoid a problem is to face it head on and make sure that you are left not knowing what hit you. Forceful confrontations can take a lot out of a person and can sometimes push you to defeat. A partner like this is not worth staying with, let alone worth talking to.