Clingy girlfriends aren’t born, they’re made that way. if you’re looking for the signs of a clingy girlfriend, here’s a secret you really need to understand. If you’re clingy, it’s not your fault. Seriously! You’ll truly understand why it isn’t your fault as you read on.
But first, you need to remember that there’s a thin line between a clingy girlfriend and a loving one. At times, even the best of us can end up becoming a clingy lover without really realizing it. The honest truth about being a clingy girlfriend is that it isn’t a bad thing, just as long as you know where to draw the line.
The most confusing part about the clingy persona is that it’s subjective. An old boyfriend may think you were clingy, while a new boyfriend may think you’re too distant and closed up!
# Space in a relationship.This is the biggest clingy girlfriend trait that most guys despise. Do you give your boyfriend enough time to do his own thing? Guys love their space and they need some time by themselves, even if they’re doing nothing. It’s their way to unwind after a long day.
# You want to talk for hours and he doesn’t.You may love snuggling up in bed and speak to him over the phone or text him for hours every night. Your guy may love doing that at the start of the relationship too. But as the relationship’s novelty starts to wear off and the love settles into a mature and happy zone, he may want to cut down on the time he spends exclusively with you. It doesn’t mean he loves you less. It just means he’s ready to get back to his normal life when he had other things to do.
If your boyfriend hints about wanting to spend less time talking over the phone, don’t force him to talk to you because that would mean you’re slipping into the clingy girlfriend territory. Instead, keep your calls short for a few days and hang up even before he wants to hang up. It’ll make him miss you more!
# You don’t have a life of your own and hate that he has a life.
Be honest with yourself about this one. Do you hate that he goes out with his friends, and you find yourself sitting alone at home and bored?
Go out with your own friends. Don’t always be waiting for him to make plans and take you out. Respect yourself and don’t be available at his beck and call. If you want to avoid getting a tag of the clingy girlfriend, make your boyfriend a part of your life. Don’t ever make him your whole life.
# You genuinely think everyone else, but you, are a bad influence on him.Admit it, your boyfriend got along just fine with his own life until you came into it. You fell in love with him for the person he is before he met you. Yes, he may have a few bad friends. But instead of asking him to avoid all his friends because “you’re the only one who truly knows him”, help him learn from his mistakes by subtly revealing the flaws of a few friends when he’s bitching about them.
# Don’t always be the damsel in distress.Guys love to play the part of the protector in the relationship. Ask for help and he’ll feel manly. But ask for too much, and he’ll just get annoyed. Learn to ask for help in the right way, and he’ll love you more.
# You’re insecure when he meets an attractive girl.
Do you ever feel insecure when he spends time with an attractive girl? Why? Are you afraid he’ll fall in love with her and leave you? You may be low on self-esteem because you’re not talking to any attractive guys yourself.
Go out there with your own friends and meet hot looking guys and have a flirty conversation with them if that’s what it takes to raise your self-esteem and feel good about yourself. You’ll soon realize that just talking to a sexy guy doesn’t mean you want to have sex with him. And you’ll probably start trusting your boyfriend more.
# You don’t like it when he spends time with his friends.So your man prefers to spend time with his own friends instead of you? Why do you think he does that?
a. He may be spending enough time with you already. *or*
b. He may think you’re easily available for him whenever he wants you.
The only reason you feel lonely without him is because you don’t have anything to do besides hanging out with your boyfriend. Don’t be that clingy girlfriend. Have your own life and make him want to spend more time with you. Turn the tables around and he’ll trail you like a lost puppy.