Did you ever think you’d find yourself in the midst of a love triangle? Except with this triangle, both people are pining over you, and you over them. Although this may sound like a dream situation that leaves you feeling incredible about yourself, it’s not an easy situation to get out of.
Sure, you can enjoy your time with both guys—going on dates, cuddling during movies, and even having some fun between the sheets. But eventually, they will want to set the relationship and get a label on it. AKA, you’ll have to pick which one you want to be exclusively committed to.
How do you choose when you obviously like both guys equally? On one hand, you do realize that you have to pick one of them and settle into a relationship. But on the other hand, you’re so happy with both of them that you don’t want to lose either!
Finding one person you want to date and be with is rare, let alone two! Even though you may feel lucky in this situation, you are now responsible for one of these guys’ happiness and the other’s heartache.
# Learn as much as you can about themHow can you properly decide between two guys to date if you don’t actually know them very well? In order to truly decide which man is best for you, you’ll want to find out everything you can about them: their hobbies, likes/dislikes, and even all their favorites.
# Discuss their future plans
What is it that these guys want out of life? Where do they see their lives going? In order to choose who is best for you, you’ll have to figure out which person has a future that best fits yours. How can you be with one guy if he plans on traveling the world and you’re deathly afraid of planes?
# Determine if they have any deal-breakersEveryone has a relationship deal-breaker. You know yours, and you’ll want to make sure they don’t have any. Not only should you make sure they’re free of all of your deal breakers you should also find out theirs, and make sure you’re not guilty of any of them.
# Beware of any red flags
Sometimes, it’s hard to see something they do as a red flag, but you really have to pay attention. Do they poke fun at you, but it actually makes you feel bad about yourself? Do they shy away from you every time they check their phone? These could be serious relationship red flags.
# Spend at least 2 consecutive days with themSpend at least a whole weekend with each guy. This is crucial in determining if you’ll be able to be with them in long-term situations. You could have the best chemistry with someone for a few hours, but what happens when you’re with them all day? Do you get annoyed, or are you even happier to spend that time with them? This will help you decide who you could see yourself being with in the long run.
# Think about your feelingsI truly believe it’s nearly impossible to like two people equally. Not truly equally, at least. Maybe you have strong feelings for both, but one person has you feeling more powerfully in love. Sit and think deeply about who you feel more connected to. That will help you choose between the two guys.
# Don’t compare their physical appearancesSome people will say that you should be with the person you find the most physically attractive. And even though physical attraction is a huge part of a relationship, it’s also the part that fizzles out the fastest. So, make sure you’re not taking that into consideration when choosing who you want to be with.