7 Tips To Emotionally Connect With a Man

Men are taught to be unemotional individuals who only find affection when they are made a sandwich or got a really good blowjob. Of course, they’ll enjoy those things but that’s not necessarily the way to connect with someone. Knowing how to emotionally connect with a man means going deeper than surface level.

Those are stereotypical ideas of how a man thinks, but people forget that men are emotional people, just like women. So, if you want a relationship with a man, not just casual sex or the once a month booty call, connect with him on a deeper level.

# Don’t make him open up to you

I know you want to deepen the connection, but listen if he wants to open up to you, he will. You need to make him feel safe so that he’s comfortable with telling you personal things about him. If you ask too many questions or bitch about how he’s not opening up to you, it won’t help.

# Do have sex

Listen, sexual intimacy is a great way to connect with someone, you can use it as a way to become intimate with someone. People connect with each other through sex, both men and women want to be desired. So, the answer is yes, do have sex with him but don’t rely fully on sex or making out to bring you closer together.

# You have to take a step forward

If you want him to open up to you, you’re going to have to open up to him. Of course, it’s scary but if you don’t open up to him, you’re not showing him your vulnerable side. And he’s not going to put his guard down. Basically, someone needs to be vulnerable first and since you want to emotionally connect with him, make the first move.

# Don’t judge him

If he opens up to you about something he does or something about his past, don’t judge him. By him telling you this, it’s showing you that he’s trying to open up to you. If you want him to be open with you, you’re going to have to accept what he’s telling you. If you’re judging him and being condescending, he’s not going to tell you anything anymore.

# Don’t be a dick when you argue

I’m not trying to give us women a bad rap, but we do have a tendency to bring up things from the past when we fight, things that have nothing to do with the fight itself. Telling him that this is why his mother left him as a child or that his penis is small isn’t going to solve anything. What it does do is show him who you are, and that he can’t trust you with what he tells you.

# Connect mentally

Physical chemistry and connection are important but what really lasts is the mental connection. If you want a long-term relationship, you need to connect with each other’s minds. Talk about things that actually interest you, not things that you think he’ll like. If you do that, it’ll be boring. So… what I’m saying is don’t talk about the Kardashians.

# Support him during hard times

I never forget the moments where my friends and partners were there for me. With men, it’s the same. You want to show them that you’re there for them when times get rough. How else can they open up to you if they don’t feel safe with you?