There are many ways to ask a guy out, but if you want to make sure that you end up going on a date, you have to remember to never make it obvious that you have a huge crush on him. Let a guy know that you’re interested in him, but don’t let him know you need him. Not at least until he starts reciprocating your move. By doing that, you’re halfway to learning how to get a guy to ask you out without you having to be brave and ask him instead!
A guy may want to ask you out, but when he realizes that you like him a lot more than he likes you, he’ll start to take it easy just to see what you’d do about it. Yes, guys love to play mind games!
The key is to give him just enough to let him know that you’re going to say ‘yes’ and make him think it’s all his own idea. Sneaky, right?There are two things a girl has to do to wow a guy and get him to ask her out.
You have to drop a few signs and you need to become desirable in his eyes. It sounds simple right? Well, it’s probably not as easy as it sounds but it’s not impossible either!
It’s best to start by dropping a few signs so he starts to look at you as dating potential. Sometimes, a guy may assume you’d never be interested in being anything more than friends with him. In that case, he’s not going to do the asking, is he?
To help him see the dating side in you, here are a few tips you can use.
# Get your friend to call you both a couple
When you’re having a fun chat with the guy you like, ask a trusted girl friend to join both of you in the conversation. It would be preferable if there are other friends around too. And out of the blue, let your trusted friend comment to no one in particular in the group and say something like, “these two make a cute couple, don’t they?”
It’s an awkward statement, and one that’ll definitely lead to a few laughs around the group. But all said and done, no matter how embarrassed you pretend to be or how he behaves, the thought will still linger in his head.
# Use a friend to tease himNow don’t use all these strategies all the time. Just use a few that you’re comfortable with.
The next time you’re having a conversation with this guy, tell your friend beforehand to butt into the conversation. Ask your friend to tell the guy that it’s so obvious he likes you, and ask him when he’s ever going work up his courage to ask you out?! Of course, she has to make it seem like a joke, and yet, pose it as a serious question.
It’s straightforward and easy, and yet, you didn’t really ask him out yourself. If he does like you, he’ll use this opportunity to ask you out himself.
# Invite him to join youIf you’ve made any plans with your friends for the weekend, casually bring the subject up when you’re hanging out with him and invite him to come out with all of you. Tell him it’ll be fun to hang out together and check out a new place. It’s nowhere close to a proposal, but it’s still a step closer to making him like you.
# Look for common interests in weekend plansAsk him what he does over the weekend. And when he does tell you what he does on the weekend, fake a happy surprise and tell him you like doing that too! If you’re not sure of his weekend activity, you could just tell him that you’ve always wanted to try that.
This only works if both of you share a few common interests. You obviously can’t stretch a lie here, so be careful when it comes to sharing activities over the weekend.
If he is interested in you, he may invite you to join him on his weekend activity. And who knows, it may just lead to something more romantic.
# Subtly let him know your routine
If a guy has to ask you out, he has to miss you now and then. Do you live nearby? Then this would be the perfect way to get to spend more together time with him. During one of your conversations, let him know what you do every evening after work or college, especially if you have a neighborhood café where you like relaxing after the regular 9 to 5, or hit a particular gym every day.
If he lives nearby, there’s a good chance he may have some time on his hands and he may even look forward to spending time with you. If you drop a hint and let him know about your routine, he may even end up bumping into you on a regular basis. And almost all the time, love emerges with more together time, doesn’t it?
# Get him to drive you nearby as a favor
Stepping out of office to run an errand after work? Try bumping into him on your way out and ask him to come along with you or drive you nearby to help you out. And after finishing up your errand, ask him out for coffee. Insist and tell him it’s the least you can do for helping you out. And once you’re out there on a *date* with him, make him see your good side and be awed by you.
# Play the damsel in distressAsk him for help. This is a trick that always works. Guys just can’t help themselves when a pretty girl asks for a bit of help. Ask him if he can fix your wooden window panels or some other thing you can think of. If he does like you back, he’ll use any excuse to be with you. And after he’s done helping you, thank him with your sweetest smile and reward him with coffee or a homemade lunch.