You might be thinking I’m crazy to say this but I promise I’m not. Finding “the one” can be one of the hardest things you’ll ever do. You’ll date a lot of people and even end up with a few broken hearts in the process. But in order to make finding that special someone easier, taking a break from dating is something to think about.
How can you find your special love if you’re not even dating, you ask? Well, there’s no simple answer to that. But if you’re someone who’s a serial dater, it’s probably your best option. You can’t go around dating a ton of different people. If you do, you’ll never find someone worth spending your life with.
# You stop looking
When you’re trying to find the person you’ll spend the rest of your life with, you’re constantly looking. This is especially true for those of us surrounded with people getting engaged and married.
You see everyone else happy and you’re determined to feel the same. So you look at every single person you meet as a potential spouse. This may seem okay, but it blinds you to the truth about that person. When you’re not dating, you stop looking and allow someone’s unique personality and characteristics to shine through.
# You get to know yourself better
This is probably the most important reason taking a break from dating can help you find the one. You learn who you are. This is something many people think they know, but actually don’t.
When you’re constantly dating, you’re always molding yourself to fit someone else’s needs. You lose sight of who you truly are. When you stop dating, you’re allowing yourself to get back to your roots. And that will attract the RIGHT person for you.
# You find out what you really wantMuch like you get to know yourself better, you also get to know what you want. You may think you have an idea of the perfect person for you, but that image is probably skewed by the people you’ve been with thus far.
And how did those relationships work out? When you get out of the dating game, you learn what’s missing in your life. This helps you determine what characteristics you really love and appreciate in a partner.
# You open yourself up to someone new
If you’re constantly in a relationship, you’re not available to meet someone who is potentially much better for you. You completely take yourself off the market. This causes you to turn down dates with people who might be a better match.
So taking a break from dating will keep you available for when the right person does come along. You’ll have no reservations about saying yes and getting to know them – so long as you weren’t out there “looking” for them again.
# A sex break will only do you goodSex can really mess with our minds. We sometimes think that physical attraction can overwrite any other kind. And when you’re always dating someone and getting some action, your thinking is clouded.
So taking yourself out of the dating game and also not sleeping with anyone helps you see people for who they really are – and not for how they make you feel in bed.
# You focus on building your own life
You know what’s more important than finding a life partner? Building your own life. Building a life you’re proud of and you’re happy to live. You can’t expect to be happy in a relationship if you’re so unhappy with everything else.
# You’ll learn new ways to loveRomantic love isn’t the only type of love out there and you need all of the types to make a relationship last. Taking a break from dating can help you learn new ways to love that can only help when you meet that special someone.
You’ll learn how to love someone like a friend, how to have family love, and even how to love yourself. All of these are important in any successful relationship.