7 Ways Playing Hard To Get Really Works

We’ve all heard and told each other, “you just need to play hard to get,” but what does that even mean? Does that mean waiting two hours to reply to a text or rejecting them when they ask you out? See everyone loves to give this advice but when you ask them how to do it, it’s radio silence. So, you’re probably wondering right now does playing hard to get work. Actually, yes it does. This isn’t even me making this up, it’s science.

Now there have been many studies researching the question, does playing hard to get work, and here’s what they found. Those that were playing hard to get have a higher chance of meeting a long-term partner with a committed relationship.

In addition, they also found playing hard to get resulted in the other person spending more time and money on them. Not bad, right? But all this information means nothing if you don’t actually know how to play hard to get. So, stop wasting your time and learn the steps. Playing hard to get is fun… if you know what you’re doing.

# Don’t have sex right away

I know right now casual sex is the norm, but you’re going to have to take a step back and not run into the bedroom with them right away. I know you want to sleep with them. Remember, if you rush into it, they’ll have nothing to look forward to. So, keep the flame going and make them wait.

Get to know each other first and let the sexual tension bubble. If you’ve already had sex with them, don’t make it routine, instead, make it like a treat.

# Give them enough attention to stay

But don’t give them the attention they want. Realistically, they want you all over them, but you’re not going to do that. Instead, give them just enough attention so they keep working for it. I know, it sounds a little mean, but these are the rules of the game. Give them enough attention to hang around you but not too little or else they’ll ditch you.

# Get them to work for it, but don’t forget you have to put in some work too

You want them to make an effort and work for your affection, but, this doesn’t mean you just sit and wait for them to come running.

A relationship is a two-way street, so you also have to put in some effort to show them your interest. If they feel it’s one-sided, they’ll call it quits. Think of it like a tango dance–they move one foot forward, you move one foot forward.

# Don’t reveal everything

I had one friend who would tell her whole life story to the guy on the first date. Well, needless to say, she never got a second date. Why would she? She gave everything away in the first thirty minutes. You don’t want to do that. Instead, give a little, wait a bit, see the vibe and then give a little more.

Remember, not everyone is going to use the information you give them in a positive way, so be cautious.

# Have your space

Of course, you can go out with them, text them, etc. But you also want to give yourself space and show them that you value your space. Deep down, you want it to work out with this person which makes total sense, but you need to show them that you don’t need them. Plus, how can you play hard to get if they’re always around you.

# Work on your confidence

Confidence is key when it comes to playing hard to get. If you’re not confident and believe you’re the hottest person in the room then how do you think they’re going to want to chase you? You need to show this person that you’re worth investing time and chasing after. Because if you wouldn’t chase you, they won’t want to either.

# Show value

Here’s the thing, people always want what they can’t have. So, show this person that you’re in demand. People all want a piece of you. This means that you hang out with friends, you go out on the weekends, you have a life, and people want to be a part of it. When they see that other people want you, it’ll motivate them to try to get a piece of the pie.