One sided love is truly the most painful types of love you’ll have to deal with in your life.It’s demeaning, insulting and so painful, it makes you wonder why love even exists. Heartbreaks are painful, and it hurts a lot more when you feel helpless. Ever felt like the harder you tried, the more the person you loved slipped away from you? It’s like squeezing grains of sand in your palm.
It isn’t a man thing to cry, but it hurt so bad that my life came to standstill. I was bitter, angry, and so helpless. I just didn’t know what I had to do. Should I just stay a friend all over again and pretend like nothing ever happened between us? I couldn’t do that. It would have been too painful. I had to let her go.
# Get an answer
This is important, but not always easy to get. Find out why this person doesn’t like you anymore, or find out why they stopped liking you. Getting an answer can give your mind the rest it needs, even if it hurts. But if you can’t get any answers, don’t make your own assumptions. Think of it as something that wasn’t meant to be and let go.
# Accept the lost cause
Don’t live in denial. Accept that you can never get this person. You’ve lost. Sometimes, we can’t win it all and you’ll just have to accept it. Just like dealing with an addiction, you need to accept that there’s a problem before trying to overcome it.
# Have self respect
Love takes away any self respect you may have. And while that may seem cute when both of you love each other, it isn’t so sweet when love is one sided. Stop trailing your lost love. And don’t go dedicating silly love songs on youtube.
You may feel like you’re pouring your heart out, but the person you like may think you’re an annoying pest with no life. Have self respect and respect this person’s space. Sometimes, nothing you do can ever change the way someone feels about you.
# Keep your memoriesRemember how your heart was ripped in two by this person. If you want to let go of someone you love by hating them, you need to keep those bad memories alive. If you have any self respect, you should feel insulted every time you recollect the way you were treated by this person.
# Avoid this person
Almost always, the person you like may start to avoid you. After all, they don’t care about you. But even if this person doesn’t avoid you and decides to pretend like nothing ever happened, start avoiding them. How can you behave like a friend when you clearly have feelings for someone? If you don’t avoid this person, you’ll only feel worse. It’s not easy to avoid someone you love, but you have no other option here.
# Avoid hearing any newsDon’t keep in touch with this person, be it online or offline. If you have common friends, avoid them too. Avoid checking their facebook page every evening, unless you want to stay a loser for the rest of your life. The person you like doesn’t care about you. How long are you going to keep them on a pedestal and worship them like a loser?
# Keep yourself occupied
This person you love so much is not even thinking of you. You mean nothing to them. Admit it. You’re the only one pining about your lost love. This person you like has forgotten you already. You think of this person a hundred times a day, and in all probability, the person you like may not even think of you once a week. How does that make you feel? Don’t you think you need to move on?