I understand heartache, I do. I also understand some people have worse luck than others. In fact, anyone who has ever met me and heard about a tenth of the tribulations I have been through probably thinks I was Hitler in my past life. If you are looking for how to stop feeling sorry for yourself, I get it, truly.
It is hard to see everyone around you seemingly skate through life without a care in the world, because there really are those people. There are people in other countries who have nothing, but if that argument doesn’t hold water for you like it doesn’t for me, then don’t buy into it.
There is a point in life when we all need to have a pity party and let people come and give us the empathy we need. But, every party should end. You find the strength to give it up and move forward.
Instead of accepting defeat and throwing in the towel, staying perpetually sorry for yourself, try these pick me up tricks to find the inner lucky that you just don’t see right now.
# Hang out with someone shallowIt is easy to feel sorry for yourself when you are a very emotional or highly sensitive person. The best way to not feel sorry for yourself is to hang out with someone with no depth.
What you find in the midst of your pain, you are real and have feelings. It is much better to feel sadness and go through a hard time, than to walk through life without feeling or really caring about anything genuine. Shallow people make people with depth feel pretty good about where they are at.
# Visit a children’s hospital
I am sorry, but nothing makes someone feel less sorry for themselves than going to visit or helping at a children’s ward at the hospital.
Sign up to help with child life and entertain kids in your spare time. When you realize there is always someone worse off, especially children who haven’t even had time to really experience and live yet, your problems seem less critical.
# Volunteer
When you realize there is always someone worse off than you, it becomes difficult not to see all you have and know that for as sorry as you are for yourself, there is someone who your sorries should really be going to.
Volunteering is a great way to find that you are not the most unfortunate soul out there, even if it feels that way sometimes.
# Count your many blessingsStop looking at all your struggles and take a look around to find those positive things in your life. Whether it is your good friends, a house over your head, or a spouse there to love you, we all have blessings that we sometimes diminish by seeing only the dark side.
If you want to know how to stop feeling sorry for yourself, it is about seeing all you do have instead of what you don’t.
# Put away your social media and unplugSocial media isn’t real. All it does is make you feel like everyone else’s life is awesome, and yours sucks. Let me let you in on a secret, not that many people post their misery. They post the best selfies, talk about the good things they have, and celebrate their many gifts and accolades.
But, everyone has bad days. Everyone experiences tragedy, and everyone goes through periods of sadness, we just don’t put them on the internet for all to see. If you stop comparing yourself to what isn’t real, you just might find that you really don’t have things so bad.
Get off of social media and live in the real world.
# Spend the day with someone special
Do you have someone in your life who just makes you feel good to reconnect with them. Sometimes, it just takes a day to turn your week around. Make a commitment to stay in touch with the people who care and are an incentive to feel good.
# Do something nice for someone else
Do something nice for someone else. Not only will it give you a little boost of good feeling, but it also helps you brighten someone else’s day. Win-win.
Evolution gave us little boosts of good feelings to encourage us to help others for survival. So, get that little goodness running through your brain and help pick someone else up too.