8 Early Relationship Red Flags You Need To Know

You don’t need to deal with heartbreak. I’ve had my fair share and I can honestly say, I could do without it. I dated guys, ignoring the signs and ended up completely shocked when they would ghost or dump me. But the signs were there, out in the open. It was my fault that I didn’t see the early relationship red flags and do something about it.

I don’t want you to go through unnecessary pain for some idiot. Instead, it’s best to know the signs, spot them, and then run in the opposite direction. Let’s be honest, no one ever said, “they had so many great red flags, I just love them!” Nope, never happens. If you see them in your relationship, run.

# They don’t communicate

If you can’t communicate with your partner, you’re not going to get far. I’m not talking about sending each other memes. I’m talking about discussing things that bother you and vice versa with each other.

If they can’t talk through their issues, this is one of those huge early relationship red flags. What’s going to happen instead? Will they just blame it all on you? Completely shut down? That’s not how relationships work.

# They feel entitled

I have a friend whose boyfriend was upset that he couldn’t have sex with her for two weeks after she underwent surgery. Now, if that doesn’t scream entitlement, then I don’t know what does.

Entitlement means when someone feels that others should be doing more for them, that they don’t feel equal to their partners. This is a major red flag and shows that they don’t actually care about you.

# You justify their actions

The relationship is new but you find yourself finding excuses to justify their behavior to other people. Rather than having a disagreement with this person, instead, you throw all the bad evidence away in your head in order to be aligned with your partner. In reality, you’re just creating a false impression of them so that you don’t have to accept who they really are.

# They’re the center of attention

If they had it their way, the world would revolve around them. If your basic conversation with them revolves around their needs, that’s a problem. This form of narcissism is very dangerous to involve yourself in when in a relationship. In your relationship, it’s not going to be about the both of you. It’s going to be about them and only them.

# They like to test the boundaries

Everyone has their own personal boundaries and your partner loves to test yours. It could be something that appears innocent, like wanting to see you on Tuesday even though you said you were busy or pushing you to move in with them. Though they seem like no big deal, if someone is overstepping your boundaries, they don’t respect you.

# They love to criticize you

Whatever you do, they do it better. They constantly criticize you, dismissing your opinion, and treating you like you’re less than them. This is a sign of emotional manipulation. They do this to make you appear smaller than them. You’ll also feel that something isn’t right when they dismiss or criticize you. This is a red flag.

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# You feel it

Listen, you know exactly what’s going on in the situation, but you may be too insecure or scared to say or do anything about it. If your gut instinct is telling you that something isn’t right, well, something isn’t right.

Whether you’ve had past relationships or not, you know what it feels like to be treated with respect and how it feels like to be disrespected. Watch their actions and listen to your body’s response.

# They’re jealous

Okay, everyone is a bit jealous, so, I can’t say to watch out for jealousy. But what you want to watch out for is extreme jealousy. But the thing is, you won’t notice this right away nor will it be obvious. It may appear to be a concern, but if they’re looking for your phone, following you on your night out, and asking you aggressive questions about your friends, well, it’s not going to get better