Ever see those couples who just seem perfect for each other. Maybe they’re very different from each other, but they’re still a healthy couple in a strong relationship. These don’t come easy; there are certain habits of couples in strong and healthy relationships that make them grow together and create a beautiful and steady bond. Unfortunately, creating a good relationship often takes both money and time.
If your relationship is anything like mine, then you too have been grown used to ogling romantic vacation pictures on the internet, making plans for some quality time, having daydreams about sunbathing with a margarita in hand, and then canceling, the whole trip last minute.
# Dedicate time to chill out togetherOf all the ways to bond with your partner, the simplest and yet the most effective one is focusing on companionship. If you’re both couch potatoes, be French fries together. Cuddle up on your couch and binge-watch your favorite series together on Netflix.
If your partner is reading a book, grab two mugs of coffee and a book for you and read together. If he is cleaning the car, grab him a soda or beer and have a chat standing by his side to give him company. I’ve been doing this for a while, and my partner and I have ended up having great conversations around the books we’re reading.
# Learn to give compliments to be a healthy couple
Ladies, do you love getting compliments? I’m sure you’re nodding emphatically, so remember that your man loves it too! Giving sincere compliments to each other goes a long way in making your relationship a happy one. Here are some compliments for men that you can try that will sweep him off his feet.
Tell your partner how hot they look in their new jeans, or how yummy they smell. Or if your partner is an excellent driver or an amazing cook, never forget to let them know that. It is the quickest way to bring a smile on their face and eventually build a healthy relationship.
# Go to bed at the same time for a healthy relationshipThis doesn’t mean you have to fall asleep at the same time, but wrapping up the day together and getting into bed at the same time gives you an opportunity to spend some quality time together by discussing the day ahead and maybe have a quickie before bed!
Not spending enough time together is a complaint many partners have. By developing this habit, you will not just have a more trusting relationship, but can also manage to find more time to spend together. Spending some time together before retiring for the night is the secret to a good relationship.
# Don’t forget to say I love you and thank youThese are the two most valuable and powerful phrases in the English language, yet we don’t say them enough to our partners. Say ‘I love you’ to your partner after waking up, during lunch-time phone calls, when you come back home, before going to bed at night.
Slip in these three magical words in your regular conversation as often as you can, but say it genuinely. A good relationship is one where partners appreciate each other.
# Indulge in some PDA
A major habit of couples in strong and healthy relationships is showing affection often. Who doesn’t like to feel like teenagers all over again? You don’t have to make out all the way in public, but gentle touching, holding hands in the shopping malls, snuggling in the movie theatre etc are great ways to feel intimate even when you are in public.
# Help each other out for a good relationshipOne of the greatest habits of couples in strong and healthy relationships is helping each other out. We are not only talking about household chores or sharing financial responsibilities. It could be a work project one partner is stuck with or a serious career decision another partner is trying to make.
Helping each other out is a sign of a strong and healthy relationship. On days I am too tired, my husband puts the kids to bed. Yesterday when he urgently needed an email address to send a work email, I used my contacts to get it for him. These are absolutely the habits of a healthy couple. They are there for each other from the smallest to the biggest things.
# Show care and concernHappy couples show care and concern through actions as well as words. If I have a headache, I do not have to tell him to get me medicine or massage my temples. If he comes back home looking really tired, I fix a drink for him, make some snacks and join him with a glass of wine. This is one of the most important habits of couples in strong and healthy relationships.
Care and concern for each other should come naturally and that is one of the habits of happy relationships. Doing these small things never feel like an effort and there is no question of ignoring a partner’s feelings.
# Always resolve conflict quickly
Difference of opinion and conflict is inevitable in a relationship. But how a couple resolves conflict says a lot about what kind of relationship they have. Shouting, screaming or giving each other the silent treatment for days are negative habits in a relationship that should be avoided.
We always resolve conflicts quickly. I am short-tempered, but he is not. So it’s rare that both of us get into a shouting match. I flare up as quickly as I cool down and then mostly I apologize.