Relationships are full of ups and downs, and it’s not perfect all the time. Now, you may accept this flaw in love easily, but that doesn’t mean that couples can’t be perfectly happy.
Sometimes, the easiest way to find true happiness in love is by throwing away your high societal expectations from the relationship, and just making your own rules.
If you can’t, then you will always be focused on the imperfections and you will miss all the perfectly happy moments.
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TrustIf you want a happy relationship, then it needs to have trust. I’m not just talking about the type of trust that comes from being faithful and loyal, I’m also talking about the trust that both of you have in each other’s ability to do things. If you have trust, then you have respect. And that is very important to a relationship.
# RespectEvery relationship should be made up of two people who respect each other. Both of you should be on equal ground and neither one of you should believe you’re the more important person in the relationship.
It doesn’t matter if one of you has a higher paying job or if one of you is more intelligent than the other, you should respect your partner and your partner should respect you. After all, if one of you thinks you’re better than the other, then why are the both of you together?
# ChemistryChemistry is a huge part of what makes a relationship work, without it, you are just two people who spend a lot of time together. Chemistry means different things to different people, though it can often be described as an electric connection between the two of you, feeling at home with your partner or even feeling like you have known them all your life.
# SupportYou need to be supportive of your partner, and vice versa. You need to feel like you could tell your partner anything, and they wouldn’t walk away from you and that they would do everything in their power to help and support you through it.
Having a supportive partner builds you up, makes you feel stronger and helps you to do things that you wouldn’t normally think possible.
# UnderstandingEvery relationship needs to have a certain level of understanding, otherwise both of you will always be at each other’s throats. Understanding doesn’t mean that you have to forgive your partner for things they have done wrong, it just means that you, at least, try to see things from their point of view.
# AttractionThis might sound a little obvious, but physical attraction and mental attraction are two things that are needed in a relationship. Attraction isn’t just about fancying someone’s features, it’s about finding the entirety of them attractive mind, body and soul. If you don’t have that bond, then you might find that your eyes would start to wander and that can only lead down a destructive path.
# FightsArguments with your partner might not be happy times,
but it’s completely acceptable in a relationship if you are going to
stay happy together. If your partner does something that annoys you,
then you need to tell them about it.
Holding it inside will only
lead to resentment. As painful as fights can seem, they can be a really
good way to clear the air and start over fresh. And sometimes, that’s
all you need to find your happiness again!
# Don’t lose yourselfIt’s really important in a relationship that you don’t lose your individual self. After all, the person you were before the two of you got together was the person who you partner fell in love with.
It’s very easy to get lost in your partner and to only want to spend time with them, but for a relationship to be happy and to stay happy, you need to be your own person too. You don’t want to lose yourself in the relationship and then lose the relationship, what would you have left then?