When it comes to who likes who, people are weird. Trust me, some of the guys I liked, no one was able to figure out why. I mean, I didn’t even know why I liked them, I just did. Maybe it was something in their eyes or the way they smiled—but the point is, I was into them. Usually, they were never into me. So you can imagine my surprise when I was starting to feel signs of sexual tension.
Could this be? Are you sure, Natasha? I’d ask myself. But honestly, I had no idea if what I felt between us was sexual tension or his need to pee.
But after a couple encounters with guys who were into me, I figured it out pretty fast that they weren’t in need of a bathroom, rather, they were actually into me. Listen, you don’t need to tiptoe around your crush, trying to figure out if there’s something between you or not. Instead, follow the signs.
Of course, sometimes they can be wrong, but more often than not, they’re right. So, here are the 8 signs of sexual tension you need to keep your eye on. Once you know what they are, this will be a breeze.
# You feel itWhen there’s sexual tension, you actually feel it. Now, the feeling varies from person to person, but this isn’t the feeling you get when you crush on someone. Usually, this feeling spreads throughout your entire body. However, it’s felt mostly in your erogenous zones. These areas are your neck, breasts, groin—areas which are heightened during sex.
# Heavy on the eye contactNo, they’re not looking at you because there’s something stuck in your teeth. They look at you because they want you. Though it’s normal to have eye contact with someone you talk to, they’re not looking at you normally. There’s an intensity in their eyes and they’re locked on you. Deep eye contact is a huge sign of sexual tension.
# It’s all in the touchNow, this doesn’t mean they’re grabbing your ass. If so, find someone who respects you a little bit more. I’m talking about innocent touching, subtle flirty touching. Maybe they touch your arm when they laugh, place their hand on your back, remove the straggling hair out of your face. These are minor gestures but close the gap between you and them.
# It’s all about the smiles
No one wastes a genuine smile on someone they’re not into. If you and this person smile all the time around each other then that’s a pretty good sign they enjoy their time with you. Smiling is an automatic response to things that make us feel good and happy.
# They talk up close
Like up real close. Maybe they’re naturally people who invade personal space when speaking. I’ve met a couple, but more likely than not, they’re into you. Why else would you talk so close to someone you’re not into? It doesn’t make sense. Usually, when we don’t like someone, we make sure there’s a decent amount of space between one another.
# There’s a lot of laughingUnless the person is genuinely hilarious, we usually don’t laugh with people we’re not attracted to. If you’re into someone, whatever they say you most likely find hilarious. So, with that being said, if you find this person laughing at almost everything you say, they’re probably crushing on you hard.
# There aren’t any awkward silencesThis doesn’t mean that there aren’t silences, don’t get me wrong. Silences are a bad thing, but in this case, there aren’t any awkward ones, you know, the ones that leave you with a weird feeling in your stomach. If there are silences, they only continue to build up the tension between you two.
# They move in closeThey’re not only close talkers, but they also close the gap when you’re not talking. They lean in close when you speak, they sit right next to you with your legs touching. The closer a person is, the stronger the sexual tension is between you two.