There are a few qualities and traits guys need to understand when it comes to knowing how to be a good boyfriend. While men and women don’t really think along the same lines in a relationship, it’s rather simple to understand what it takes to make your girlfriend feel like the luckiest girl alive.
In fact, the ideal traits and qualities of a great boyfriend are almost so easy to remember and follow, that it’s almost surprising why so many guys fail miserably at something that should be seen as effortless when you love someone!
Remember, these qualities aren’t herculean nor are these expectations from a perfect boyfriend too ambitious. If you actually are a decent guy within your heart to begin with, then these traits *and empathy and communication* would be deep-rooted within your mind anyways, even if you’re too lazy to follow through now and then.
If you can see several of these traits in your behavior already, that’s great, good for you! But if you’re missing several qualities pointed out here, your girlfriend’s probably not as happy as she could be. And chances are, she’s not very happy in the relationship either!
# Share your thoughtsA great boyfriend loves talking to his girlfriend. He has interesting things to talk about even when there’s nothing new. And most importantly, he wants to understand his girlfriend and he wants her to understand him, warts and all.
# Treat her like a ladyBoyfriends aren’t born great. They become good boyfriends by knowing how to behave with women and the girl they love.
One of the first steps in getting the admiration of a girl you like is to treat her like a lady. Learn to be chivalrous and understand what it takes to make her feel special. It’s easy to play nice until you get the girl, and treat her like you don’t care once the chase is over. But guys who do that will never be able to hold on to a great girl who’s desired by all guys.
# Be exciting and fun
Do you think you have an active life? Do you enjoy meeting and interacting with people? Or do you enjoy life best cooped in front of a gaming console with no distractions *real work!* all day?
A great boyfriend is almost always a great guy too. He has an active social life, and gets along with people easily. He’s likable and has a warm aura about him that draws people to him. You don’t need to be out and about every single day, but as long as you don’t want to isolate yourself and your girlfriend from the rest of the world, that’s a great start!
# Be romanticRomance isn’t about a handful of roses and a social media post bragging about it!
Almost all guys woo a girl until she decides to date them. And then, many of these guys take it easy as soon as they “hook” the girl. Don’t be the guy who takes a backseat and expects the girl to do all the work as soon as you’ve won her heart. If you can’t continue to be the great guy, that’s probably because you’re being too self-centered and selfish.
# You see her. Really.A great boyfriend is one who sees his girlfriend, and knows her well. Do you notice your girlfriend’s new haircut or a new dress when she wears one?
If a guy loves a girl and finds her fascinating, he’d be observant and would easily recognize something new in the girl he dates. And if you don’t notice them, you can still be assured there are other men who would notice her and woo her instead.
# Be interested in her life
Do you ask your girlfriend about her life every day? A good boyfriend is always interested to hear about his girlfriend’s life and the things she does every day. If you actually care about someone, you’d want to hear about their day, and every little thing that happened in it, wouldn’t you?
# Don’t force herDo you ever pressurize her into doing something YOU want, even though you know she’s not happy to do it? Don’t manipulate a girl or gaslight her into doing things your way. It isn’t a sign of love, but a sign of control.
# Do you make her a better person?
When two people love each other, they can’t help but try to bring out the best sides in each other. Do you motivate your girlfriend to achieve her full potential instead of telling her that she’s incompetent or can’t do something?
If you want to know how to be a good boyfriend, this is as good as it gets. You know your girlfriend better than anybody else, flaws and all. Most guys assume a relationship is all about being happy and in love, and having a great time in bed. But that’s not where love ends.