Being friends with an ex is a complicated decision that can go both ways.On one hand, life could be perfect even after the breakup.On the other, becoming a pal of your ex amour could do more damage than good.So can you be friends with an ex?
In almost all cases, of course you can. After all, it’s really easy.Both of you know each other really well and understand each other better than most others.So how could that ever lead to a problem, right?
But at the same time, you have to remember the kind of relationship both of you have shared with each other.You may both know each other well, but the relationship you once shared will never come back. It’s a whole new relationship that you’re building together in the form of a friendship.
# You’re single and the sex was awesomeLet’s face it. Sometimes, you may have a terrible emotional connection with your ex. But the sex could have been awesome. No harm’s ever come off two exes turned sex buddies with no emotional connection. But do put an end to it when you think you’re ready for a real relationship.
# When there’s mutual back scratchingBoth of you may have drawn swords out while you were in the relationship. But now that it’s over, do both of you need each other for emotional support or to succeed in life? Do you work together or have a few sticky situations that need both of you to stay friends?
# Both of you are like siblingsIf you were in a relationship where sex was nonexistent, then you should have no problems being friends. After all, sexual attraction is the biggest distraction for exes trying to be friends. Get that out of the way, and you can be friends or even siblings!
# It’s a happy breakupWell, happy may be an exaggeration here. But did both of you break up mutually because both of you felt like the relationship wasn’t giving the happiness that both of you deserved? Mutual and happy breakups are easy to turn into friendship.
# The sexual tension’s droppedBoth of you may have been
in a long term relationship, and after a while, the sex may have started
to feel more like a weekly or monthly chore than pleasure. If you’ve
just broken up from a relationship where you’re more attracted to
someone else than your partner, it’s safe to buy each other friendship
bands.
# A lot of common friendsIf both of you share a lot of common friends and don’t really want to separate your friends or create an awkward get-together when you bump into your ex, perhaps it’s better off staying friends. Of course, you can still stay friends and keep your distance, can’t you?
# You go bumping all the timeDo you work in the same office? Do you live next to each other or are both of you neighbors? If you find that you have no option but to meet each other all the time, perhaps it’s better to raise a peace flag and friend each other on facebook. You could just wave or say ‘hi’, or even have a conversation once in a while.
# When you’ve got a lot to gain
Have you just broken up with your boss, or someone who can potentially give you a leg up or open a lot of big doors in your life? This is just dirty and you’re being friends for all the wrong reasons, but hey, this is life. If you can work for someone you hate, can’t you stay friends with your ex?