A woman’s mind can be a pretty confusing place.One minute we’re searching for signs, and the next, we want something more definitive.The problem here is that we’re not even that sure how definitive “definitive” is.We could be overanalyzing and dissecting every single gesture or word he says, and yet we still can’t figure out why he hasn’t returned our call.
Nothing is ever clear-cut when you’re just speculating on whether someone genuinely likes you or not.But unwittingly, a guy may do little inconsequential things that seems like a huge red flag to ladies.He’s checking his phone when he’s with me! Definitely sexting other girls.Did he just look at the hot waitress? WOMANIZER!
# You initiate all contact… Until you stopAt first, it’s always you asking about his day or hinting at hitting the coffee machine at the same time. But when you stop because you’re tired of being ignored, rejected or given the “we’ll see” response, he’s suddenly the one initiating contact.
Even if it’s possible that he has just realized that he likes you, it’s more likely that he’s realized that he’s lost someone who makes him feel desirable.
# There’s sporadic contactYou send him a text today, and it takes him days to respond. A guy who genuinely fancies you should reply within the day at least, right? So what gives?
He was probably occupied at the time you texted, but that doesn’t mean he can’t spare a few seconds to reply. Chances are, the day he replies is the day he’s just bored.
# You get short, generic responsesDoes it always feel like whenever you invite him for coffee or to catch up, his response is, “I’ll check my sched,” or “I’ll let you know,” or “Hmmm…” Shady responses lets him keep you in suspense, but be warned, if he really wants to have that coffee with you, he’ll either set up the time and place or he’ll say yes to your suggestion.
# He’s spontaneous… almost too spontaneous! It feels great when we get swept off our feet by a surprise date. But when it’s always a surprise and nothing ever gets planned, that’s when things start to get fishy. Is it because he abhors making plans? Or could it be because his plans got cancelled and he knows you’d always be willing to hang out with him?
# You’re never alone with himHe always seems to have a handy group of friends who are conveniently around when you’re on a date. You notice that it’s starting to feel like a pattern and you never get to have a heart-to-heart conversation with him. Take this as a polite hint that he sees you only as a friend.
# He always calls when it’s late and he’s drunkWhat else is there to do when it’s late and his cognitive skills have been flushed down the toilet? He probably knows you’d take him in given his current state or he’s looking to get laid. Almost always, he knows he can flirt sexually over the phone or get to sleep with you with the least bit of effort. And the worst part about his genius plan is that he can blame it all on the alcohol the next day.
# He easily cancels at the last minuteYou’re all made up and ready to go, and then you receive a text saying that he suddenly can’t make it to your date. You’re devastated, and yet you’d be tempted to convince yourself that there must be an emergency.
However, if it happens often, it may be a sign that he doesn’t value your time and therefore finds it so easy to just leave you hanging.
# He’s a pro at excusesHere’s the tricky thing about telling an elaborate story: it can be so detailed and realistic that you might actually believe it. But when you notice that he always has to do some super specific errand for a friend/relative on the other side of the city, then it can be one of two things: he’d rather do a tedious errand for someone else, or he doesn’t even think you deserve the truth. Either way, he’s not interested.