8 Signs That Tell You are a User

Maybe you’re starting to notice you don’t have any real friends. All the people around you don’t even know who you are. Are you a user?

Are you a user? Sure, there are times where we may manipulate someone to get what we want. I’m not saying manipulation is rare, even the kindest of people may manipulate for their own personal gain. We all have our flaws, and I understand that. But being a chronic manipulator and user is something else.

This means you have built your life around lying and using people for yourself. Everyone around you is completely unaware of who you really are. They don’t know you’re only spending time with them because you need something from them.

Now, it’s sad for the people around you, but it’s a really sad life to live as a user. You don’t have any genuine friendships, or people that you trust. Instead, you live your entire life finding ways to get more from people around you.

# You ask for favors but don’t reciprocate

You’re not shy to ask your friends for a favor, but when it comes to reciprocate, you’re not there. You may borrow some money or get them to drive you somewhere, but you never do small favors for people. And this is simply because you’re a selfish person. Sorry to break it to you like that. Wait, I’m not sorry.

# You stretch the truth to get what you want

We all stretch the truth every now and then, but you’ve made it your full-time job. You tell a lot of white lies to get what you want and use guilt as a way to manipulate people. You make sure to change your lies, depending on what you need and who you’re talking to.

# You never think of others

Your friends and people around you have their own lives, and that means they go through their own personal struggles. But you don’t think about those things or even want to know. Why would you? If it doesn’t benefit you from hearing about it, you would rather not waste your time.

# You wouldn’t describe yourself as trustworthy

If you think about secrets people have told you or things they’ve trusted you with, you haven’t done a good job at keeping those secrets safe. People have said or done things for you out of trust, but you’ve gone behind their back and betrayed them.

# You take advantage of relationships

When you’re hanging around someone who wants more out of the relationship, whether it’s platonic or romantic, you use that as a way to get more from them. It could be through gifts, favors, or money. The point is you use their kindness as a way to propel yourself forward.

# You’re always in charge

People who manipulate aren’t going to let others make decisions for them. Instead, users are always going to try to be in charge of their surroundings. If not, it opens the chance for them to lose control. If you’re someone who fits this description, then you may be a user.

# You justify your manipulation by someone else’s actions

You have an excuse for everything, and let’s be honest, who wants to admit to themselves that they’re manipulative and selfish? So, instead of taking responsibility, you shift the blame to someone else and go by the idea that if you didn’t do it, they would have done it to you.

# You never pay

Your friends and family have taken you out hundreds of times for dinners and lunches, but you never take out your wallet to pay. As a user, why would you? Why would you pay for a meal when you know someone else can? Sure, you offer to take them out for lunch or dinner, but that never ends up happening.