Love songs, chick flicks, and chick lit are filled with lies. Figuring out if you’re with the right person is not as easy as they say. Life isn’t a Nicholas Sparks novel and the reality of the situation is, no matter how much you love the man you are with, you have to consider other factors when deciding if you have a future together.
So, how do you know if you truly love the man you’re with? How do you know for sure that you have a real future with him? How do you know that, 10 years down the road, things are not going to fall apart and you’re not going to be saddled raising three kids alone? Speak to anyone in a long-term relationship, and they will tell you that staying committed to someone is hard and that it is not always rainbows and unicorns. It is more about compromise, sacrifice, patience, and understanding. Despite all of that, they will also tell you that all the risk and hardships that come with it are worth it.
If you are stuck and have no idea if you’re with the right man, here are 8 signs to help move things along.
# You’ve discussed the futureOne of the simplest ways to tell if you have a future with your man is if your dreams and goals are in line with his. You’ve discussed the possibility of marriage, having kids, buying a home, living abroad, and so on. Once you have these details down pat and you’re not butting heads, you can realistically say that you have a real future with him.
# You live together and love itI’m a firm believer in living together before taking the next step. How can you tell if you can spend forever with your partner without living under the same roof first? If you already live together and things are flowing smoothly, it improves your chances of having a real future with him.
# It’s easy to communicate
You know that you really love a man when you can share everything with him. From your fears to your aspirations, he should be the one you lean on and pour your heart out to. You should also make sure that you don’t fight all the time, because if you do, it will be hard to spend forever together.
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You don’t feel the itch
You can be sure that you have a
real future with him if cheating or even the possibility of being
tempted by someone else hasn’t crossed your mind. You don’t feel the
itch, because no other man measures up to him. That’s a sign that you’re
meant to be. I can’t promise you that things will stay this way
forever, but it’s definitely a good start.
# You feel secure with himI’m not just talking about financial stability. I’m talking about the whole package. If you feel safe, protected, and secure with him, there’s a great chance that your relationship will go the distance. This is assuming that you’re offering him the same, of course.
# You’re mildly obsessedYou’re concerned about his wellbeing, his safety, and you want to spend as much time with him as you can. Some may look at this as being mildly obsessed, but honestly, there’s nothing wrong with caring about the one you’re with.
# He treasures youYou’re a queen and deserve to be treated like one, but keep in mind that this has nothing to do with being showered with materialistic things. Forget about the bling bling, fancy rides, and champagne showers, because in the long run, those are not important. Besides, you can always buy them yourself. If your man respects you and showers you with all the love in the world, he’s definitely a keeper and there’s no reason why you shouldn’t love him with all your heart.
# You come firstBeing in a relationship means that you should always come first. He values your opinions and takes your presence in his life seriously. However, you have to give him the time and space to just be a boy and not throw a bitch fit if he wants to hang out with his buddies or zone out with his Xbox.