8 Tips To Get Your Boyfriend's Attention and Keep It

Sometimes guys are the worst. I know, we all love them but as boyfriends, they can often need a little help understanding the wants of women. And that want is to be heard and taken seriously. In order to help them figure it out, you’ll have to learn how to get your boyfriend’s attention.

It’s not easy. Girls don’t always understand how guys’ minds work and vice versa. So in order to get him to take you seriously, you’ll have to learn how to connect with him in a way he’ll understand.

If your boyfriend’s attention is wandering or you just can’t seem to get him to take you seriously, these tips can help. Don’t settle for a man who doesn’t think everything you say is the most important. Make sure you’re heard.

# Don’t nag

Nagging won’t get you anywhere with a guy. If your boyfriend feels like you’re nagging him to pay more attention, he’ll get annoyed. To him, it doesn’t sound like a legitimate concern to you but rather like you just want to change him.

Instead, focus on talking to him calmly and seriously about the issue. If all you’re saying is, “Why don’t you pay attention to me anymore?” while whining, he’ll feel attacked. And when that happens, no one wins.

# Don’t go overboard

Some girls try to compensate for not having their boyfriend’s attention by trying way too many over the top things to make their men see them. This is not the way to go. Never start doing crazy or wild things in an attempt to get his attention. It’s not worth it and it won’t work.

# Do less

The key isn’t to do more, it’s to do less. Guys usually get annoyed when you do too much to get their attention. In most cases, they’ll roll their eyes and go back to ignoring you. What really makes a difference is when you pull back.

Just stop trying to get his attention. He’ll notice your withdrawn behavior a lot more than he’ll notice your extravagant attempts to get his attention. So do less and he’ll end up coming to you.

# Talk to him during a good time

If you always feel like your man is ignoring you but the only time you talk to him is in the middle of his favorite show, that’s your fault. Don’t try to get his attention when you know it just won’t happen. Choose better times to talk to him and spend time together.

# Discuss his behavior

Just talk to him. Don’t be afraid to tell him that he’s not giving you enough attention. This is a serious problem in your relationship and if he cares, he’ll listen and make the change.

But don’t try to talk to him while yelling or blaming him. First, tell him that you’re feeling a little down about yourself. Once he realizes how it’s negatively affecting you, he’ll listen more intently.

# Don’t deal with disrespect

If your significant other is disrespecting you, that’s a whole other problem. Don’t let him do that. Stop him the second he’s doing it and call him out on it. More often than not, this will surely get his attention.

# Delegate time to spend together

If you’re not getting the attention you want because both of your attention is split when together, then just schedule time together. There’s nothing wrong with this if you both have busy lives.

This way, you’ll be able to focus on each other while together instead of having to check your social media, watch a movie, and try to hang out together. Make a time that’s just for the two of you to be alone together.

# Dress to the nines and ignore him

While I don’t normally condone something that could be considered “childish,” it’s definitely useful in this instance. If he’s been ignoring you and not giving you the attention he deserves, then look your best, and go out with your friends. Make him beg you for your attention.