When it comes to converting a sexual connection or romantic spark into an actual make-out session, there is more to think about than just when to make a move. You might have heard people make comments on previous lovers in criticism of their kissing technique. But whether you think you are a great kisser or not, these top tips will teach you how to kiss with tongue and make you a kissing expert.
As hot as an intense make out session can be, using too much tongue can make it gross and messy. No one wants to feel like they’re kissing a dog, so let’s avoid the slobber. If you want to know how to kiss with tongue, learn how to avoid giving your lover a sloppy wet one by using our tips.
# Don’t go straight in with tongue!Never go straight in with the tongue! This is a massive turn-off, especially if you’re kissing the person for the first time or you’re in a new romantic entanglement. Just because someone has indicated they want to kiss you doesn’t mean they want to swap saliva with you already. Don’t force it, it could backfire and turn them off completely.
# Get into a groove before trying out tongueNo matter what kind of kiss you’re having, it is important to get into a steady rhythm before trying anything new. Use this as a rule of thumb for any sexual or intimate encounter you have! It’s also a great rule of thumb to use when kissing, because it will avoid confusion or your tongues getting mixed up and things getting awkward. Let your bodies naturally lean into the next step when you’re in a groove.
# Assess the momentLearning how to kiss with tongue is pointless if you don’t know when to use it. A kiss with tongue is romantic, sensual, and an overtly sexual and suggestive act. Because of what a tongue kiss represents, you shouldn’t be going in with a lot of tongue at a family gathering or in a public place. Save your tongue skills for an intimate and private setting.
# Allow them to make the first move 'tongue-wise, that is'When using tongues, the best way to avoid an awkward pause or an unwanted move is to let your partner slip the first tongue in. If you give this a go first and it doesn’t go to plan, it could end up with a break in the groove or an awkward *probably, last* kissing encounter which sets a bad tone for the whole relationship.
# Graze their bottom lip with your tongueIf they’re not making any moves but you really want to try tongue kissing them, just slide your tongue along their bottom lip. It’s like you’re testing them to see if they want to go further. If they open their mouth, it’s very likely they want you to slip in a tongue!
If they keep their mouth closed, however, that’s a clear sign they just want to stick to non-tongue kisses for now. You can even nibble at their bottom lip after grazing it with your tongue to make it even sexier.
# Pull their body closer to you
Pulling someone in closer during a kiss is incredibly romantic, and will definitely intensify the moment of your kiss as a whole. It can also distract them if you happen to lose rhythm in your kiss, or accidentally get a bit sloppy. Romance covers up a little kissing faux pas or two.
# Don’t forget to breathe!Taking breaks during kissing is almost as important as the actual kissing itself! A quick pause allows for you to reset the rhythm of your kiss, swallow any accumulated spit, or just clean up your kiss a little.
These breathing breaks will help you both catch your breath and savor the moment too. If you’re worried a break from kissing will end the sensual moment, just move your face a bit lower and kiss their neck for a few seconds so both of you have some time to breathe.
# Take it slowWhether kissing them with tongue or otherwise, slow kisses are a recipe for romance. Although fast and uncontrollable passion is great, taking it slow will make them think you mean every kiss you give them. It will romance the moment and increase the likelihood of another make out session!