For some people, being charming and likeable comes naturally.
But for some others, any conversation for over a few minutes ends up involving toe curls and awkward silences.So what makes some people naturally warm?Are they lucky with the opposite sex?Or do they have something that you still don’t understand?
# Don’t be selfishWhen you’re talking to someone, don’t talk only about the things you know or like.
Start off by talking about something you know the other person would like. Only the charmers and smooth talkers know this fact.
To keep someone interested in the conversation, learn to build their excitement up by talking about things they like and they’ll end up having a longer and happier conversation with you.
# Smile a genuine smileAt first sight, a happy-to-see-you smile can make someone feel happy to see you, and relaxed to talk to you. Let your happiness be infectious to everyone around you. Don’t behave in a grumpy manner. Exude positive vibes and everyone else will feel uplifted after talking to you.
# Be comfortable in your own skin
Don’t fidget around or shuffle your feet nervously. Relax and feel comfortable wherever you are. When you feel positive, your vibes will make the other person feel more comfortable with you. Don’t be a fake and don’t try to be someone you’re not. Like yourself and others will be charmed by your presence.
# Get them talkingIf you want to know how to be charming, the secret is in getting the other person to feel like they’re doing all the talking. People like talking about things that revolve around their own lives. When you’re talking to someone, ask them about their day or recent activities. And be genuinely interested in what they have to say.
# Make others feel more positive
When you’re having a conversation with someone, compliment them about something you like, be it their clothes or their work. When you make the person you’re talking to feel positive and confident, they’ll enjoy talking to you more often. After all, you do make them feel good about themselves. Be gracious and yet, sincere and people will love spending time with you.
# Flirt and flatterDon’t be sexual or excessively flirty, or you’ll come off as an incessant flirt. A charming person is someone who makes everyone feel good about themselves after a conversation. Say good things about the person you’re talking with, without overdoing it. As long as you’re likeable and warm, everyone else will enjoy a conversation with you.
# Empathize with themRelate to the person you’re talking to. They’ll appreciate it and feel a lot better. Always try to relate to them by saying something similar that happened to you too, especially when it’s something painful or less flattering and embarrassing. When you help people feel better about themselves, they’ll be grateful and find you a lot more charming and sweet.
# Be enthusiastic and lively in the conversationListen to what the other person says and add your own details now and then. By doing that, you’ll find more things to talk about and come up with new and interesting conversation pointers all through the conversation. Don’t ever look bored or you’ll end up hurting the other person’s feelings.