Relationships are never easy. Anything involving two people is a challenge. When you’re in a relationship, you never really know what the other person thinks. However, through actions, you see when someone isn’t feeling the relationship and thinking, should we break up?
Who said breaking up was easy? But there are signs. So, if you’re asking yourself, should we break up? you need to ask yourself why that question keeps popping up.
# The communication diedThere is no communication between you. Your partner is going to a party tonight? You didn’t even know. Yeah, well, it’s not because they forgot to tell you. Maybe they don’t feel the need to tell you. It’s not like they want you to go with them.
# No more sexy timeIf there’s no more sex, you’ve transitioned into the brother and sister phase of the relationship, or as most people call it – roommates. You’re now roommates that occasionally look at each other while eating dinner. That’s it.
Don’t get us wrong, couples experience phases; however, at some point, you must ask yourself—is this a phase or a permanent transition?
# You find more amusement staring at a lampIf you find more happiness feeding the pigeons on your balcony, it’s time to sit down and evaluate your relationship.
Relationships have their downs, but they’re supposed to make you feel joy and happiness. If you gain nothing positive from the relationship, take a close look at it.
# You fight over minimal thingsYeah, yelling at your partner because they left the ketchup bottle out is obviously hiding a deep issue. Examine what causes you two to bicker with each other. It’s not the small things, there’s something huge hiding behind it.
# You stop thinking about the future together
You used to talk about moving in together. Now that’s a topic that never comes up. What happened to the goals you made together? Without mutual goals, how will the relationship progress? This automatically answers your question, should we break up. If you see no future together, can you have a future together?
# No more touching
People go through a dry patch in the bedroom but still maintain affection. When your partner stops hugging you or holding your hand, something is wrong.
Affection is necessary for a relationship. We would say it’s even more important than sex.
# Your eyes wanderMost people acknowledge a good-looking person when they see one. However, they’re not slipping them their number or giving them mad eye contact if they’re in a relationship. You don’t need them. However, if you are, then you’re clearly looking for something new.
# Therapy isn’t workingYou’ve done couples counseling and everything your therapist tells you to do goes in one ear and out the other.
Relationships are hard work, so if you’re not willing to put the work in, maybe they’re not worth it enough for you.