Having a crush can be a lot of fun! Of course, it comes with a hint of drama, but that’s what crushes are for. They take you on this roller coaster of emotions. But if you’re ready to move from crush to something else, it’s time to learn how to get your crush’s attention.
In high school and university, I was always crushing on the popular guy. It didn’t work out too well for me. I was a complete tomboy, but I would spend my days and nights thinking about them *stalking them on social media, guilty as charged*, and daydreaming about the moment they’d come and confess their love for me. That day never came, but that doesn’t mean it can’t play out that way for you.
If I had someone to take advice from, I probably would have done a lot better back in the day. That’s why I’m here. You don’t need to follow in my footsteps. Instead, allow me to show you what you need to do to grab your crush’s notice. It’s not as hard as you think, but it will require you to put in some work.
What’s important is that you don’t change who you are in the process. You are you, always remember that. You can change the superficial things, but don’t try to change who you are to please your crush because it won’t last even if you do get their attention. So, use these tips to learn how to get your crush’s attention, but not at your own expense.
# Use your personalityAll of us have personalities that are different from one another. Now, you may be thinking that this is bad, but that’s silly. This is your biggest advantage. Your personality is rich with humor, thoughts, and opinions. Use this to flirt with them and turn them on.
# Look at them! If you’ve never spoken a word to them, start with eye contact. It’s harmless, and it can be super flirty. If they’re into you, it’s a hint that you’re into them too. Now, you don’t need to stare them down, but look at them when you pass by. If you’re talking to their friends when your crush is around, make sure to look at them.
# Befriend their friendsThis is an old trick, but it can be very effective. You want to get their attention, right? So, if you’re a little nervous, start by befriending their circle of friends.
This way, they’ll slowly start to hear your name and pay more attention to you. You’ll get invited to some mutual events, and by doing this, you slowly bring yourself and your crush closer together.
# Keep your distanceThey’re your crush, obviously, you’re going to want to be around them all of the time, but this isn’t what you need to do. Instead, keep a little distance. Everyone knows when someone likes them, and if you’re around too much, it becomes more annoying than anything. Plus, they see you as someone who likes them. You need to be the one they’re into.
# Work on your confidenceIf you’re not confident in yourself, your crush won’t take notice of you. You need to show yourself as someone with high self-worth and respect. If they see that, they’ll be intrigued. If you can, try to go up to your crush and introduce yourself.
# Crack jokesThe best way to create a bond is through laughter. That’s right. If you have a good sense of humor, use it! You’d be a fool not too. You can crack small jokes here and make them laugh. By doing this, they’ll want to be around you more.
# Watch out for the friend-zoneAh yes, the friend-zone. I know very well about that zone from both sides. Now, it’s entirely possible to be friends and then lovers, but you don’t want to be spending too much time in the friend-zone. It’s important you find a balance and eventually make your intentions known.
# Use your smileIt’s easy for people to fall in love with a smile. How can you not love other people smiling? It’s sexy, it’s sweet, it’s positive. All the things people want in their lives. If you run into your crush, give them a hello smile. You want to look like someone they can approach and talk to.