You’ll hear this line from countless of women, “Oh, he was okay. I dunno… he was just too nice.” Ouch. I’m not going to act like I’m not one of those women – I’ve used that line before. You could be the cutest guy in the room, however, when you’re too nice or the guy suffering from the nice guy syndrome, I feel like there’s no challenge and no chase. That’s why there’s no second date.
But you can get through this rough patch. You may genuinely be a nice guy *and I’m not asking you to forcefully become an asshole*, but there are some things you can do to save yourself the unnecessary rejection and cure your nice guy syndrome.
# Know the signsIf you think you may be Mr. Nice Guy, perhaps it’s time to look at the signs. Once you’re aware of the signs, then you’ll be able to take steps to fight your given stereotype and become a man who lands a second date without any questions being asked.
# Admit you’re Mr. Nice GuyThis will take a shot to your ego, but you’re not getting any dates, so really you have nothing to lose. It’s time to accept the fact that you’re Mr. Nice Guy. Just admit it to yourself.
Once you’re done grieving over your newfound discovery, you can work on combating the title you’ve earned. Take a couple days, eat some ice cream, and watch Rocky. Then it’s time to get to work.
# What do you do that fits the stereotype?
There’s probably a couple main actions you do that play a huge role in you not getting women. Maybe you’re too passive aggressive or perhaps you come off too needy. Although this may appear harmless, women don’t like it. And if they don’t like it, you won’t be getting any girls.
# You’re predictable
Women are all about patterns. The minute something is out of the regular pattern, we know. Trust me. I can see when a guy isn’t interested in me before he tells me. It’s all in his actions. So, it could be that you’re texting her all the time – switch up the routine a bit and throw her off track.
# Stop lavishing her with giftsYeah, I’m not sure who thought this was a good idea. This one guy I went on a first date with showed up to my door with chocolates, a teddy bear, and flowers. Needless to say, it was a little much. Oh, and did he get a second date? No, he did not. You don’t need to buy her gifts – you really don’t. It comes off as desperate. I know it’s sad, but it’s the truth.
# Lay off the needinessWhether you have your own life or not, you need to make it look like you do. No one, whether you’re a man or woman, wants to be around a clinger. There’s actually nothing worse than having some guy who won’t go away and get the hint.
So, if you want her, you’re going to have to show that you have your own life and that you’ll make time for her – but she’s not the only thing in your life.
# Say no
This is a huge one. You’ve probably never said no to a girl. In fact, even when you want to say no, they do something cute and you shrug and say, “okay.” Well, not today. Those days are over. Now, you’re going to say no. Women want a man. Men take charge and say no. You need to have boundaries so that you don’t end up being stuck with the nice guy syndrome.
# Stop being availableYou’re able to hang out with her any time of the day, any day of the week. That’s a problem. Don’t you have things to do? People to see? People other than her?
She knows that if she calls you to hang out, you’d bail on all your commitments just to see her. Don’t do that. You already made plans, so she’ll have to wait another day.