Not every partnership is built to last, and a lot of relationships end. That’s just a fact of life. Sure, we hold out all sorts of hope when we enter into a new relationship that it’s going to be the one that we’ve finally found that special person that’s going to make all our fantasies come to life.
But then a few months roll by and you’re rethinking everything because it’s just not working out and you can’t figure out why. They seemed so incredibly perfect at first! What went wrong?
There are a lot of similar things that lead to the end of a relationship. These factors play a large role in the downfall of your relationship and, to a certain degree, maybe the entire cause of its demise. Decide if these traits describe your relationship and do your best to correct them before it’s too late!
# Bad communication
This tops the list of reasons why good relationships end because you just can’t have a happy relationship when you don’t communicate well. Your partner needs to know your likes, your dislikes, what makes you mad, what works in bed, and so much more.
When you can’t communicate, things build up and become too much to bear and you need out… leading to a failed relationship.
# Trust issuesWhatever put the trust issues in place—whether it’s something they did, your past relationships, cheating, lying, etc—will lead to the end of a relationship.
You cannot have a healthy, happy relationship without trusting your significant other 100%. If you want to make it last, work on your issues!
# Unlinked futuresThis is a big one for a lot of early 20-somethings. You really like each other, have great chemistry, and seem perfect for each other, but you have completely opposite futures planned out.
Maybe they want to travel the globe for ten years before settling down and you’re looking to be a housewife right away. Either way, you have to have some sort of a similar future for the relationship to really work.
# Unrealistic expectationsHere’s a bitter truth that
might shock the socks off of you: life is NOT a romantic comedy. Someone
is not going to show up out of the blue and make all your dreams come
true. You can’t put that kind of pressure on your partner.
When
you have unrealistic expectations, you fall victim to asking too much of
someone and remain unhappy because you think things should be
different.
Stop having such high expectations from someone you date, and face reality if you want your relationship to last.
# Different expectationsNot only are unrealistic expectations a reason why good relationships end, having different expectations is problematic, too. One person might think that you two are headed to the altar and the other might just be dating you to figure out what they want.
Having different expectations of one another in the relationship will almost definitely lead to a split if you can’t come to terms with it.
# Not compatibleThis is a big reason that many good relationships end. You might both have the same hobbies, interests, and even a sense of humor. However, if you can’t both decide on the proper way to fold clothes, things might not work out.
Now, that’s a very small detail, but if your compatibility is off in a significant way, it could lead to a breakup.
# Abuse of any kindWhether it’s physical or emotional, any kind of abuse is going to head the relationship downhill faster than anything else.
No one should ever put up with any form of abuse and that is evident in the number of relationships that have failed due to it. If you’ve been abused, it is time to get the hell out of dodge. If you are the abuser, you need to get help and change your ways fast.
# Judgmental partnerThis one is very real for a lot of people, because for some reason, no matter what they do, their partners always judge them.
If you decide to start practicing yoga, they might immediately mock your choice. If want to take up painting, they quickly tell you that you are wasting your time.
When you can’t be yourself around someone because you fear their opinion is going to be negative, your relationship will fail.
# Boredom
Another big reason why good relationships end for a lot of people! Many people bored easily. This means they need someone to keep them on their toes and keep things interesting.
When you get bored in a relationship, it usually means that there’s a mismatch in the chemistry and compatibility department, and it’s only a matter of time before one of you goes looking for something to curb that feeling.