Being in a relationship can be a wonderful thing, but sometimes it's easy to fall into the trap of settling for less than you deserve. Settling in a relationship can happen for a variety of reasons, such as fear of being alone or a belief that you can't do better. However, settling can lead to an unhappy and unfulfilled life. If you're unsure whether you're settling in your relationship, there are several signs to look out for.
One of the most common signs of settling in an unhappy relationship is feeling stuck or trapped. If you feel like you can't leave the relationship, even though it's making you unhappy, it may be a sign that you're settling.
Another sign of settling in an unhappy relationship is feeling unfulfilled. If you're not getting your emotional or physical needs met in the relationship, it can leave you feeling unfulfilled and unhappy.
A lack of effort from your partner can also be a sign of settling in an unhappy relationship. If your partner isn't putting in the same level of effort as you, it can create an imbalance in the relationship and leave you feeling unimportant or undervalued.
Finally, feeling unsupported or ignored by your partner can be a sign of settling in an unhappy relationship. If your partner isn't supportive of your goals and dreams or doesn't listen to your needs, it can be a sign that you're settling for less than you deserve.
If you're experiencing any of these signs, it's important to address the issue with your partner and work towards a more fulfilling and happy relationship, or consider ending the relationship if necessary.
So what do you do?Should you just put up with a relationship that’s less than perfect because you start to believe that you can’t find anyone better anyway?
It’s easy to know when you’re settling in a bad romance. All you need to do is ask yourself if you’re unhappy in your relationship, and you’ll have your answer. Use these 16 signs to truly find out if you’re settling in a relationship that feels more like a burden than a happy escape.
And once you have your answer, try to work around the negative issues with your partner, or gather your courage to confess to them that you’re just not happy in the relationship anymore!
# My relationship isn’t the worst
You know you’re unhappy in the relationship, but you constantly convince yourself that your life isn’t so bad because there are so many others who are living through a relationship that’s much worse than yours.
# Not the best, but good enough for meYou’re with your partner because they’re with you. They’ve decided to stick around with you, and for you, that reason is good enough to endure the relationship, even if it means a lifetime of unhappiness and dissatisfaction.
# I think I can work it outYou know you’re unhappy, and yet, you don’t do anything to try and fix the relationship. You and your partner are drifting apart slowly, but you convince yourself saying that you’ve seen worse relationships working out *dragging on*, so why can’t yours work out… eventually?
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I’m sure my partner will change somedayIf your partner can’t change for you today, what makes you think your partner will change for the better tomorrow? Why do you put up with someone who treats you disrespectfully and takes you for granted when you could have a much better life, without this person or with someone a lot better?
# My time will comeYou stick around with your lover, in the constant hope that you may eventually run into someone better someday. And until then, you’ve decided to weather the storm and put up with your relationship.
# I can deal with thisThe point here isn’t whether you can deal with an unhappy relationship. The big question you need to ask yourself is why are you choosing to deal with it if you’re certain that you’re not happy with it? Life is too short to fill it up with martyrdom and unhappiness for a lost cause, and you need to remember that.
# I feel sad for my partnerYou feel guilty for even thinking of leaving your lover and walking away from them. You feel sad for your partner and don’t want to hurt their feelings. After all, you know your partner would crumble without having you in their life. And so you choose to ignore them, avoid having conversations with them and just stay by yourself when you get back home. So is that really your benevolent choice, ignoring them completely instead of walking away from them?
# Time will heal everything
And just how long have you been waiting for? Time covers a scar, but it is communication that heals, especially in relationships. If you want to fix something, you need to bring all of those feelings that drove both of you apart out in the open. And in a relationship, all this starts with communication. If you really want to heal a relationship, try talking to each other openly.
# I’m too used to my partnerMany of us use this excuse to endure a bad relationship. You’ve been living through a bad relationship for so long that a happy life just doesn’t seem to matter anymore. You believe you’re cursed into a bad relationship, and you have no choice but to endure it because you’re too used to it anyway.