Ever in life if you have ever found yourself dating someone with depression, you might have a lot of tips to share with others. You might have also came up with conclusion that dating someone with depression can be a complete nightmare, but it is not all that is bound to happen, you just need to know what is coming. According to a survey 350 million people suffer from clinical depression worldwide. Major symptoms of depression includes a general disinterest for life, self-loathing, irritability, lethargy, mood swings, hopelessness, reckless behavior, and loss of interest in friends, family, and loved ones. Not exactly great qualities to bring into a relationship.
It is very tough to love someone who you cant make happy always. When you are the one who is suffering or the mate on other side, depression is hard, espically when you are trying to make your relationship work.
# Sometimes nothing worksOne of the most frustrating things to come to terms with is that sometimes, you can’t do a damn thing to make your lover happy. You could be doing everything right down to the smallest detail, and your lover’s mood still won’t change.
# You need to make the first move alwayshis is pretty much the opposite what we think we should feel towards our partners. You need to understand that your boyfriend/girlfriend doesn’t mean to be emotionally draining… but it doesn’t change the fact that they are. That doesn’t mean you don’t love them with your whole heart, it just means every now and then you need to take a breather and do things that refresh your spirit.
# Never make it personalMany times, we hurt the ones we love, and dating someone with depression is no different. There may be times when you feel like your girlfriend is walking all over you or taking all of her depressed frustrations out on you unfairly. The silver lining? You’re totally right. She probably is, but it’s only because she knows you’ll love her unconditionally regardless.
# Being frustrated is not being selfishHave you ever uttered the phrase: “I’m sick of waiting for him to be happy”? Hey, we feel you. Life isn’t easy, especially when you love someone with depression. And at times, you’re going to have some less-than-loving thoughts about your significant other.
This doesn’t make you a bad person, it makes you human. Dating someone with depression can be extremely frustrating, annoying, and at times you may even feel like a verbal punching-bag – but this too shall pass. Bottom line: you’re going to get frustrated, and that’s okay. It’s not easy dating someone with depression.
# Depression isn’t logicalThink you’ve got the best slice of advice for your lover on dealing with their depression? More than likely, your girlfriend already knows that exercise promotes feel-good, depression-fighting oxytocin. And she also knows that open-communication is key to a healthy relationship. And that isolating herself is just about the worst thing she can do for her depression.
In fact, you may be saying the most profound, sensible thing ever that could totally do wonders for your lover’s spirit, but they’re just not listening. Why? Because depression isn’t logical.
# No romantic thing about depression
So you’ve started dating a guy who says he’s depressed. Your translation? Brooding boy’s depression makes him seem ultra-sexy, mysterious, tormented, and romantic. The actual translation: your man is going to go through a rollercoaster of emotions and inner turmoil, and he’s not likely to let you be a part of it. Depression isn’t a sexy facet of your mate’s makeup, it’s just hard. Dating someone with depression means that it’s not always romantic.
# Sex is come and go situationWhen your mate is suffering from the big D, the last thing they’re going to want is YOUR big D. When you have sex, you want to feel sexy, hot, and confident. You know what rips all of those erotic feelings away from you? Depression.
Be patient with your lover until they get back into the swing of things sexually, and always keep the lines of communication open.
# Not getting anything in return from loverOkay, so dating someone with depression doesn’t exactly sound like an ideal relationship, but that doesn’t mean your partner is going to be a loveless zombie. On the contrary, once you prove yourself to your mate, they’re going to be your loyal lover for life… or something like that.
The point is, just because you’re with someone who is clinically depressed doesn’t mean they aren’t going to be emotionally supportive in return. They can still be super sexy, loving, giving, and have the amazing ability to make you laugh. It just means those rough spots are going to come a little sooner than you thought.
# Know when to throw in the towelJust because you’ve emotionally invested yourself as someone’s support system doesn’t mean you *have* to stay with them. We’re not saying you won’t feel guilty if you walk away from the relationship. But it is ESSENTIAL that you not take on more than you can bear – and to know when enough is enough.
If you are sacrificing your own happiness in the pursuit of someone else’s, you need to reel it in and remember that you are the only person you’re guaranteed to be with for life. So in some cases, your happiness and mental stability has to come first.