Arguments in relationships are inevitable for most couples. While a few lucky ones rarely argue and completely understand each other, for most of us, petty fights due to confusion or misunderstanding are quite common.
Arguing with your partner doesn't make you a bad partner, nor does it mean your relationship is less than perfect. However, how you resolve these arguments can determine whether you're seen as a good or bad partner, and it can significantly impact your relationship.
While you might not be able to avoid arguments altogether, you can control how you handle them.
Whenever possible, it’s better to avoid arguments and communicate openly instead. Arguments can negatively impact your health, peace of mind, and productivity.
Toxic arguments can create a barrier of coldness, making interactions awkward and annoying. If not properly addressed, these arguments can drive a wedge between you and your partner.
Over time, arguments can turn into ego battles where neither partner wants to give in, as it may be perceived as a sign of weakness.
However, arguments don’t have to harm your relationship. In fact, healthy arguments can bring you closer together and help prevent future conflicts.
# Arguing Doesn’t Mean a BreakupArguing with your partner doesn’t necessarily indicate an impending breakup. In fact, it can be healthy for a couple. In a mature relationship, both parties should understand that conflicts are temporary.
Loving each other enough to work through disagreements is reassuring. Threatening to break up during an argument should only be done if you truly mean it.
# Watch Your Words – They Can Leave ScarsArguments can make your blood boil, and the words you say can have lasting effects on your partner. Apologies and reassurances may not erase the impact of hurtful words.
While it's easier said than done, try to be mindful of your partner’s feelings during an argument. This is someone you love, so consider if you truly want to say something hurtful.
# Occasional Arguments Are NormalConvincing yourself that arguments are normal can be difficult, especially during your first few fights. Remember, all couples argue.
Healthy arguments can lead to better communication and may indicate a stronger commitment to your partner. Couples who argue are often more invested in resolving conflicts and discussing important issues, unlike those who never argue, who may lack the same level of connection and commitment.
# You’ve Had WorseNo matter how intense the current argument feels, you’ve likely experienced louder, angrier, and longer fights before. This too shall pass.
View the current conflict as an opportunity to strengthen your relationship and improve your communication skills.
# Taking a Break Can Make All the DifferenceArguing can be exhausting, whether it involves the silent treatment, yelling, or sarcasm. Taking a five-minute break can help diffuse the situation.
Researchers have found that a short break in a quiet, relaxing place, like a guest room or your car, can significantly change your mood and reduce your desire to argue.
Next time you’re in a heated exchange with your partner, take a five-minute break. Sometimes, a change of scenery is all you need.